OK, here it goes - I have an awesome girlfriend whom I love tremendously. She has three kids: 21(M), 20(F), and 16(M). She is from Atlanta and all three grew up in the suburbs of ATL. Meanwhile, I have three girls. I am originally from NYC and the my kids, although suburban as well, are more closely connected to NYC or DC (depending on age). There is a difference in perspective between my 13yo and her kids, but all in all, everyone seems to get along OK. But I absolutely have a passionate hatred for the eldest son. I mean, he is an intolerable
Loser! My girlfriend got pregnant young and had her first born boy almost immediately after HS. Afterwhich she had a daughter before her HS boyfriend turned husband fizzled out. Typical young love gone sour - no hard feelings. Anyway, she worked extremely hard as a single mom and achieved enormous success in our career trade (within which we met). Because she felt bad about having children are so young, she admits that she spoiled them in later years, especially her first born. Her younger son was with a second marriage and that kid is awesome (the dad is an excellent father and I respect him for helping raise a solid young man). Anyway, her 21 year old has recently moved back in with us and the kid is a useless sod. I mean, absolutely useless and his mom - the woman I love - helps him stay useless. He will not clean a dish. He will take out the garbage. He waits for her to cook for him. He has no job and is seeking no job. He sits around playing video games all day, drinks at night, and repeats this pathetic pattern. More galling to me is that, at 21, fresh out of the Marines, I could not wait to live life and conquer the world. When I was a teenager, my mom had my brother and I clean the dishes, take out the trash, and even prepare meals. Now I have this 21 year old slugo (soon to be 22) that simply takes up space and is annoyingly useless. My girlfriend sees it, but does NOTHING about it. She makes it worse by contributing to his sycophanty. Recently this loser of a kid will say something to his mommy and I will get chided by HER - name the topic! I am now running out of patience. Everything about her I love - even her 20 year old daughter (who is a spunky kid that contributes to the home) and her 16 year old. But this leach has entered our once happy home and I am miserable! I have been honest about my feelings and I get that he is her son - but my expectations of a ten or fifteen year old versus a 21 year old are very different. I have had it! I cannot stay in this house one more second while dotting mommy allows one of the characters from Step Brothers to coexist with me under the same roof. I will come home from a 12 hour day at work and find trash everywhere, McDonald's bags, and dishes in the sink, and he is still in his pajamas playing World of Warcraft. Am I missing something?! If anyone has advice, please Lord, share it. I love her, but I am at my limit. We will not see next Christmas at this rate (after 3) and I must say, I think that's what he wants.