No Disipline
My girlfriend and I have been together for about 5 years. She has 2 girls 11 and 12 from a previous marriage. We have been living together for 4 years. WE have a 2 year old son together. My problem is that she will not back me when i try to correct her girls. Like last night our son was grumpy and her 11 year old was grumpy too and making faces and getting him all fired up. I said hey knock it off,and right away she jumped me and said dont be talking to her that way and pretty much just walked all over me. Her kids know that she is very defencive when it comes to them so i dont have any disipline with them. She gets me so fired up i lash out in anger and look like the A hole. They are 11 and 12 and she does not want them helping around the house like dishes, laundry. She says they get good grades and thats all they need to worry about so it falls on Her and I and Im getting burnt out. I work 50 hrs a week and she works 40. I tried talking to her but she is so damn Defencive its useless. What should I do. Thanks
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Some people can't stand to
Some people can't stand to have others point out that their children aren't perfect. She trusts you enough to raise your child together but feels she has to stand up with her daughters because their father isn't there. GUILTY MOM. and I agree they are more than old enough to help out around the house, good grades aren't everything. When will they learn how to cook and keep their shit picked up, when they are 18??? They should be helping Bc you guys are working so much and it shows a family 'teamwork' thing.
"Hey knock it off..." That's pretty mild stuff. She needs to get over herself. Kids need to be called out when they are acting stupid and it's your GD house too. If she can't handle you discipline them let her know you will have no involvement including car rides, cooking, cleaning for them etc. You can't be expected to do the legwork and not get a say in discipline.