MY DH's birthday is this Friday. He is turning 64. I thought it would be nice if the whole family celebrates together. I always invite his kids to spend their Dad's birthday with him and sometimes they come but often they do not. But they always have a celebration for him later where they exclude me.

This has been going on seven years now. So this year I told him that I want to be included in the birthday event with his kids. My brother will even be here from Chicago and I want him to come too since he and my DH really like each other. So we get a call from the oldest SD that she is "scared" of me and does not want me there! She said this after she came to our house to borrow towels. Apparently I am fine to borrow towels from but too scary to to be included in DH's birthday.

But wait! It gets weirder. The reason she is "scared " of me! Her dad apparently woke up in the night and sent her a text about what time they were getting together the next day and mentioned he wanted to see her roommate. Her roommate happens to be his son's ex girlfriend. He told his DD he didn't send it, I must have! He accused me because I guess the daughter thought it was weird that he mentioned wanting to see the ex girlfriend. Okay first of all, if I want to send a text to his kids I will text them from my phone. He read me the text but would not show it to me! Still hasn't shown it to me.

His mother has alzheimers, I went to his doctor a few months ago and begged them to test him as I was seeing some really erratic behavior like getting mad at me for conversations we didn't have! For turning the stove up to 500 degrees and leaving it like that until the room filled with smoke. So I could see how he could send a text and not remember it.

Now the irony is I saw him with his phone that night, the light even woke me up. He was talking and I rolled over and went to sleep. He does weird stuff and says stuff all the time in his sleep. He even remembers being somewhat awake. His phone is right next to his body but according to him I got up, blind without my contacts in the dark. Went all the way around the bed missing the dog stairs and dressers and stood there and texted his daughter.

So when she got upset he threw me under the bus says she doesn't want me there so I am not welcome. He called me mentally ill and schizophrenic using the fact that my grandmother, who I saw 2 times in my life , was a schizophrenic. He told me he didn't want me there when I first asked to be included so I knew something was going down. I know he is just using this stupid text to shut me out. I told him you should have told her the truth, that he sent it and probably forgot. And he should have stood up for me.

Now I don't want to throw him any kind of party. I am sleeping in the guest bedroom from now on. I knew when I told the SD who was "working" here that I wanted to have his birthday together and she got her typical sour look and said nothing that they would figure out a way to cut me out. But this is manipulative even for them.