Custody Change-here we go
Ok, I will try to keep this short and give you the reader's digest version, although this has been going on over a year. My DH divorced BM after she got pregnant by another man over three years ago. From that time until a year or so ago they had 50/50 custody, although it wasn't written that way. Their divorce decree is only 1.5 pages long and they have 2 kids! LOL (mine was 26 pages long) he has no protection really in the decree, basically if he doesn't agree to what she suggests, he defaults to bare minimum of one night a week and every other weekend. So, here we are, court is a week away. She got a new job out of state and threatened to take the kids unless he agreed to the schedule she wanted. Long story short, she now works out of state, and the kids bounce back and forth different nights each week with parents. Their is no consistancy at all and Holidays are a night mare. She also now makes 2x what DH makes, but she doesn't think she should have to pay child support. We want consistancy for the kids, so they have stability and honestly so we do too. it is crazy each week with having the kids different days. And lets not forget all their activities and school stuff, we have to make sure they have their stuff, either lug it to school with them or my DH or BM have to go to each other's house all the time to get stuff, and needless to say stuff gets forgotten, it is a damn nightmare!
She says we are crazy for taking her to court over this (we have tried to settle out of court..over 12 times, she refuses to put anything in writing). Are we crazy to want to give these kids some stability and peace?
No....Go for more than you
No....Go for more than you want so you have room to negotiate. Be prepared for the judge to throw it to a mediator. That is what they have done to us everytime.
We are kinda doing the same
We are kinda doing the same thing, my SS lives in a different state and has for 10 years, the visitation is pretty vague, but DH signed the papers just for piece and quiet NOW the kid wants to move back with us, everything is a go, she said yes,he is 14,and everyone is on he sme page, But now SHE'S the one panicking about visitation, she didnt care before if we ever saw him, so bottom line we were able to pick up papers at the court house and file them , but we're changing costudy also, I agree, ask for everything and the sun, my husband thought for sure once the dust settled and the kid got older she would compromise ,,,, hell NO, she got worse,
I hear ya! As far as
I hear ya! As far as mediation, we have already done that...mediation, deposition...blah blah blah...this thing has drug on much longer than it should have. And Gmama, my husband sounds like yours. he signed the vague papers early on just to get it over with and didn't think it would be an issue. She never cared about visitation either until now, hell, she used to beg him to take the kids more and more and now suddenly she is trying to be mom of the year! UGH!!!!