Court here we come
So, Dh is getting ready for court. Printing emails of things that bm sent to show proof of her making it hard so Dh can not have visitation. We are a little discouraged because she said he has no grounds to modify visitation. Also, that She "wont let it change".
There has been significant amount of change in Dh life
Remarried
Had two more children
Job change * works until 7 pm
Relocation still under 100 miles but considering only one vehicle shared between us makes it hard if i have doc appts etc.
As of right now Dh barely gets 4 hours a week due to the job change. He is trying to get every other weekend ,fri evening until sunday evening. Reason why we feel like he will not win is because he works sat but will be off sun. I would be watching sd11 (along with my 2) until he came home. Anyone think we do not have a chance?
Why not ask for every Sunday
Why not ask for every Sunday and be done with it? No Saturdays at all. The whole point of visitation is to see Dad not be babysat by you. It's a waste of your time also.
Structure the argument based
Structure the argument based in the emotional need of the child to have a relationship with the father. Lay out the importance of the father daughter relationship and what the daughter needs for her father to teach her thru the years. One key aspect is about having a positive relationship with men so that her parents' divorce and a lack of relationship with her father does not adversely affect her in the future. As long as the argument is about the child and not centered on mud slinging and discrediting the mother, a judge will be sympathetic to his care and concern for his daughter. Always focus on the child!!!
I'd you really want her for the whole weekend, a secondary argument would be for her to develop a relationship with you as the step parent in an effort to create a mutually respectful relationship and to understand that you too are there to assist her father in ensuring that she is cared for and that you are his support network.
I would suggest drafting a weekend plan for when the child will be in your home that can be presented in court. The better prepared you are, the more serious the judge will take you.
My Husband and I have been through this court stuff for the last four yeArs. We have seen it all!!! At the end of the day, we still have his four children and she gets them every other weekend. Hang in there and good luck!!!
He will AT THE MINIMUM get
He will AT THE MINIMUM get the TX state standard for visitation which is usually one midweek visit and every other weekend and alternating holidays, and 42 days in the summer. You need to push for that. She does not get to dictate visitation. And your children have the right to bond with their half sibling.
We are getting ready too. I
We are getting ready too. I think we have to do mediation first. That's how our state works. We are having to forward all 300 texts to our email and get them printed as well. Not to mention getting the calendar off the wall and writing all I have documented. Just so hoping to get somewhere with this. My DH life has changed a lot too.
I am praying for a miracle. But sadly in our state the courts ALWAYS side with these crazy Bitches.
Thank you everyone for
Thank you everyone for replying. Looks like we have our hands full