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Wednesday Night Moanfest

Pilltock's picture

When will this get easier, if ever? When will Stepmother's stop getting the shitty end of the stick? This has been going round my head constantly as we have his little darlings (!) up for the beginning of the Easter Holidays. (They have only been here 6 days and I am already incandescent with rage for no specific reason - hiding in our bedroom drinking gin!)

I have 2 smelly step-daughters (11 and 10) and one freak of a stepson (14) who is seriously needing to be diagnosed properly with some sort of syndrome. He fits every criteria, even my DH agrees, sadly his dumbass Bio-mother thinks there's nothing wrong with him. (Eh - come on love, get real? There is something seriously wrong with him - he has dead eyes!)

I tried really hard in the beginning (didn't we all!) but now I just can't be arsed. I truly hate them. I see the car roll up and feel sick with disappointment that I am going to be stuck with these little fuckers again for another weekend. They smell so bad, their Mother doesn't believe in regular hygiene. All they do is eat us out of house and home, they are messy and disrespectful. Sometimes I can't even put my finger on why I hate them some much, I just do - they are interlopers in my house and I don't like it.

Apparently now they all have school trips coming up and want me to pay for it as I'm the main breadwinner - well they can roundly fuck off. Their Mother swans off on foreign holidays twice a year she can pay for them to go where ever the fuck the school has decided to send them this time. (See I don't even know, terrible step parenting at it's best!)

I have my suspicions that the boy and youngest girl aren't even my DH's. But he wouldn't even entertain the idea of a DNA test which is unfortunate as I may be putting up with two children (especially the one who is deranged...) which have absolutely no biological link to anyone close.

Anyhoo that's just a wee moanfest for a Wednesday night. Feel a bit better now the old spleen has been vented. Hang in there fellow stepparents. Don't let the smelly little bastards grind you down. *Lifts up another G&T to the screen. Xx

Aniki-Moderator's picture

YOU pay for their trips?? Pfffft!!! Are you disengaged? I do whatever I want one skid weekends because I don't want to be around them. When I am, I'm drinking.

P.S. What kind of gin?

Stepped in what momma's picture

I know right?!
You know that outdoor smell that all little boys tend to take on for whatever reason? In my family when kids come up being "outdoor" smelly we just tell em' "you stink go get in the shower" and poof that is it, the kid goes and takes showers, no hard feelings. Telling a skid they smell is like pulling hippo teeth, everyone is scared to do it, someone might die and so they get to stink. It is seriously weird. If one of my friends stunk I'd have to save something, after all, isn't that what friends are for? But skid stink is OFF LIMITS.

Stepped in what momma's picture

Drink one for me!!
You're right, step parenting is hard enough as it is without the added suspicion of the skids not even being your DH's.

Pilltock's picture

Hey thanks for the replies! When they first come to us the smell is just plain old stink, kinda smells like stale bed smell. Their mother never (I mean never) seems to keep them clean. The boy smells so bad I can't even sit near him, hair so greasy it looks wet.

After DH gets them persuaded to go in the shower (after I've hidden all my favourite cosmetics as they usual destroy or waste them - hiding things is part of my weekend ritual!) they just start to smell like them....which to me stinks. I think it's because they're not mine and they don't belong. My daughter doesn't smell like them? (Then again I am a little bias...)

Do not fear I'll be paying for no trips! The mother phoned tonight demanding that I do some extra shifts to pay for their trips - my answer........they did not come out of my vagina, they are not my responsibility. I promptly handed the phone over to my DH. God I wish I could go back in time hand hand him a condom, three times over........x

Stepped in what momma's picture

Haha, I have a running list of things of mine that get put up with the skids are coming to town, glad I'm not the only one.

Aniki-Moderator's picture

The stench is probably a combination of filthy bedding and dirty skids who have poor hygiene and don't bathe regularly. Your DH should be concerned. Bed bugs could be an issue.

TwoOfUs's picture

Ew.

My SD16 comes over and always looks greasy. Even my DH talks about it all the time and tells her to take more showers. It's mostly her hair that always, always looks dirty. Drives DH crazy.

I just hate seeing her lounging on my couch and pillows...

Acratopotes's picture

THis is easy - just a rant from you lol...

Immediately disengage and stop paying for children you did not bring into this world... sorry kids if you parents does not have the funds for you to enjoy life, then you have to stay at home... it's reality and how life works...

Whyme79's picture

I can't understand the smell thing either.

You know it's bad when they're asked the last time they showered and they look at you with stupid eyes.

Most of my wage is spent on alcohol these days!!! It's my coping mechanism. Without it, I'd need institutionalising

Hand me another drink