Hi all,
I am newbie SM from Australia, (hello to any other aussies out there!) I am 24 years old, and my FH is 28, and SD is 6, nearly 7. And dont get me wrong, she's adorable, but she can be a big handful, she likes to hang off me alot, and i feel so special that she wants me in her life so bad, but i cant even go to the toilet, or get changed without her running along after me. I love her dearly, and she constantly tell me that she wants me and FH to hurry up and get married so I am her new mum. I dont have any children of my own, and I have just gone off my BCP 2 months ago, as I think I may have fertility issues and miscarried twice in the past, and look forward to having one of my own, however DF and I plan to wait a year and see what happens before consulting a dr. Anyway I feel like when SD is naughty i really dont know how to be assertive with her, without telling her off as I fear she will hate me, I get on well with her mother, better than FH does, an I have constantly got to remind him to watch what he says when we get SD every weekend. The one big issue i do have with BM is she sometimes ask SD who she prefers more, and often it is me that she says, and i feel bad for BM as I feel I am only a flavour of the month at the moment. SD also has a SF who she doesnt seem to really click with, so basically i need help adapting to this new life, she's not a burden, just alot of work, and I will never make her feel left out if I have one of my own, how can i be more assertive, but not become the evil SM with her?
Thanks