step kid tries to stop me every time a hug my wife
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every time i hug my wife one of the step kids gets in between us and gets me out of the way. seriously irritating. he's 9. i finally expressed my feelings about it tonight when he did it and told him that i don't try to stop him from hugging his mom so he shouldn't try to stop me. we both have the right to hug her.
hm.
How did he respond to that? Shrug it off? Deny the behavior? cry?
I'm glad you said something to him and I hope the behavior changes for the best.
he denied the behavior and
he denied the behavior and then slammed the door when we walked away. slamming doors is not a regular habbit for him.
no see that's bullcrap. you
no see that's bullcrap. you shouldn't have to walk behind them. that's what happens to me when we go anywhere i end up walking behind all three of them. i'd say something if i were you and if your significant other thinks you're being jelious then maybe bringing this up to a councelor would straighten out their thinking pattern.
Oh crayon...I HATE when that happens
FH and SD8 walking in stores together, holding hands, leaving me trailing behind like the 3rd wheel. Seriously, that is one of the things that hurts me the most...I feel like such an outsider. Credit to FH though because I told him a while back how bad that makes me feel and since then he tries to not let it happen. Now when it does, he's pretty quick to realize it and he'll turn around and reach for my hand. But before I learned to speak up about these things, I was dealing with that all the time and I was NOT a happy SM!
i deal with that still and
i deal with that still and she won't stop even after i've voiced my feelings.
Yeah FH tells me I'm jealous too...
...because I used to label myself that way and he and I have discussed it. However, in the past couple of months, I'm finding that what I feel a LOT of times is not jealousy but just an unsettling feeling that I get when I see how inappropriate the behavior that I witness is. Like we were discussing in the other thread...the whole "Daddy up" and then him carrying her around (at 8 yrs)...a year or two ago I would have hated it and chalked it up to MY problem...*I* am being jealous. But now I totally get...that's not jealousy...it's just my distress of seeing something so out of line.
atleast i see i am not alone
atleast i see i am not alone here.
i just got done having a
i just got done having a discussion w/wife about skid stoping me from hugging her. she aparently makes excuses for him and acts like he didn't do anything wrong or selffish. basically acting like he's a perfect little angel who could do no wrong.
Crayon's point
I agree with Crayon's point that stepkids often don't know their place in the household. My SD is like this. My parents made it clear that their marriage came first - we didn't make that clear to SD and it created confusion and competition. It's not wrong to have one on one time with your spouse. We seem to forget that with step families. The stepkid doesn't always have to be the center of attention. They need to understand their place in the family and that role must be enforced by the parents.
Glynne
My stepson is 5, and while
My stepson is 5, and while he shows signs at times that he is a little jealous when I hug or kiss mommy (that's only natural), he is reassured by hugs and kisses from both of us to him. That really is the best way to reestablish a sense of family unity.
"God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change...Courage to change the things I can, and wisdom to know the difference."