Step daughters are impossible but I love my husband. HELP!
I have daughters of my own, they are successful kids in education and I have always worked hard to make sure they are respectful and very strong and independent.
I am not having proud or even tolerable experiences with my husband's 2 daughters, ages 11 & 14. It has been tough because my husband's parenting is more coddling & treat them like they are babies forever & I am raising my daughters to be strong responsible adults.
There have been countless issues from one of my step daughters charging up my credit card through my Apple account for $12 THOUSAND to disrespect, bullying, rudeness. It's over the top. They are here this week and with a 50/50 child custody arrangement I have realized that 50% of my life is going to be miserable in order to be with my husband. He's traveling overnight and I'm here with these kids that make messes for me to clean & don't speak to me. I bought a large tray of nuggets for my kids & them and they ate everything, all of it, and saved nothing for anyone else...but they were kind enough to leave the mess and the jug of sunny delight sitting on the table.
I'm going crazy ... I love my husband but I can't deal anymore. I can't work land have a peaceful life like this, but he is so sensitive about anything that I say regarding them I now don't even want to anymore. What on earth can I do?
What was the consequence for her theft of your credit card?
What was the consequence for her theft of your credit card? I'm going to guess not much of one.
First thing you do is tell your DH that from now on when he isn't home, the girls aren't there. They either stay with BM or he makes other arraignments. Next thing you do is disengage from them. This means DH is responsible for their care and cleaning up after them. Maybe if he has to actually deal with them he will start parenting them.
Finally, you need to really think about if you are being fair to your kids by having them live in what sounds like a pretty chaotic situation half of the time. Are the skids treating your children badly? If so, that is not a good situation for your kids to be in. Maybe you need to consider doing something drastic like living apart until his kids are grown.
You are correct, no
You are correct, no consequences. I took her phone and tossed it (because she did it on her phone) and they were gone for a couple of weeks and came back last week and she has a new phone. I yelled at her when I had realized what she'd done and apparently even that was too severe because I was told, "she shouldn't have done it but she's just a kid" It's a mess.
She’s just a kid is a cop out. You need to demand her father
Reimburse you immediately for it!! Otherwise i’d be inclined to report it to the police before statute of limitations takes place.
This piece of shit must face the consequences. If my husband would dare tell me “she’s just a kid” after she stole $12,000 off my credit card, i’d be inclined to slap him snd divorce him.
you are being bullied by these delinquents including your partner!!
You cannot possibly love this
You cannot possibly love this failed man, failed father and failed husband enough to tolerate his toxic prior failed family breeding disasters in your life and the lives of your own daughters.
Save yourself and your daughters.
Please.
They should NOT be at your
They should NOT be at your house if DH isn't there. ESPECIALLY if he has PLANNED overnight work trips. Zero excuse for the kids to not stay at BM or for him to change plans.