Ok, so my DH and his three kids moved down to NC a month ago b/c of custody issues between my ex and I regarding our son. DH is required to bring his kids up to NY once a month to see their mom. They worked this out in JANUARY, and for this particular visit had been refining the details for the last month.

There's the little background.

So we left this past Thursday evening around 6 and started the massive drive overnight. Things went fine, other than being exhausted. DH had told BM we would be getting there around 7am and would drop the s/kids off at her place. The day before we leave she says she had no idea we were getting there at that time, and was scheduled to work until 3pm. Had no idea? They've been talking about this for a damn month. So we had to keep the s/kids and ended up just kind of bringing them around to say hi to people to pass the time. We finally got to drop them off with BM's boyfriend at 1pm. We had an awesome Friday and Saturday and Sunday morning without them, and as DH is communicating with the BM that we were going to pick them up at noon on Sunday, she starts freaking out because she says she wanted more time with them. Because he gets them all month. Mind you, he did not have to twist her arm to get her to sign off on these kids. This is a 'mother' who has abandoned them twice, among thousands of other parenting sins.

We take off for her house to get there around 12:15, and she texts him and says "We have stuff to do. It won't be 12. We are leaving for the mall to go school shopping."

WTF. They had all weekend, and the time we're supposed to be pulling out of the driveway she decides to do their school shopping?! Yeah. What can we do about it? Nothing.. so we spent another hour wasting time at some car show waiting for them to get back.

So we finally get back to her place at around 1:45, pull up and I stayed in the car. Also, before that, she had told DH to leave me around the block b/c if I showed up there, she was going to "tell me what's on her mind." Oh no... can you hear my knees knock? Obviously, it would be a short conversation..... She's said this before and to avoid another fight he has ACTUALLY dropped me off some place and left me there. I told him I would divorce him if he did it again. There have been other times that she's threatened that and I showed up anyways, and as the coward she is, she had nothing to say to me. So we called her bluff again.

Anyways, from what DH says, she did actually try to get the kids out of the house without drama, but they holed up on her bed in the back corner of her room and refused to come out. For real. She was apparently trying to reason with them, but like her, there's no reasoning. Then she'd go on a rant and start shrieking at DH and cussing us up and down. Long story short, we sat there for an HOUR doing this. An hour. She came outside the car and was cussing me and DH and my son and my ex (who's a really good guy and good dad) up and down. I sat there praying that God would keep my mouth shut and keep me in the car, because I really wanted to go for her throat. Like, literally.

After an hour of this ridiculousness, the kids finally get in the car. DH told them in no uncertain terms that if the next time he tells them to get in the car and they don't, he won't bring them to visit any more. Which, like other threats he makes, I don't know why he says them because he 1) won't follow through and 2) signed an agreement saying he HAS to bring them to visit.

OMG. My anxiety was through the roof and I thought DH was going to kill someone. Beyond ridiculous.

If you made it through this whole thing, I applaud you. Sigh... six days until school starts. Six days until school starts. Six days until school starts.