I should have known that the delightful absence of the skids and BM was too good to last. BM has been calling DH non-stop all week about quit claiming the deed to their jointly owned home so she can try to modify the loan. She stopped paying on the mortgage last August and its in foreclosure with an August sale date. DH calls the mortgage company to get the info and discovers that I was correct - even it the loan is modified, he'll be stuck on the loan for the next 30 years with BM, and subject to her every whim. He decides to offer to do everything she asks if she'll sign and file an agreement with the court that states she'll refinance in her name or sell the house in 5 years when the youngest turns 18. After weeks of calling and leaving nasty messages about how he has to do this so his kids have a home, she tells DH she isn't even sure she wants to stay in the house because she's always hated it. WTF?! Why are you calling then?!! Of course the conversation about how to handle the foreclosure turns into a 2 hour bitch fest from BM, complete with crying and screaming from SS12 about how he doesn't want to see his dad again if he is with me because I don't like his mom. GEEZ kid, get over it. Your mom doesn't like me either and I could care less. The difference is that DH and I have a iron proof no bad mouthing BM policy in front of the skids and all BM does is bad mouth us all over the place. Including all over FB, where she is friends with DH's family, kids, and just friended his best friend from high school.

The funny part is that after all of the nasty stuff BM had to say and after sending a nasty email two weeks ago saying that visitation was permanently on hold, she tells DH that SS12 might want to come down to our (MY) house to visit and that if DH is on his best behavior he can take BM's horrible nephew too. I just about laughed my ass off. SS12 is pretty good for me, but BM has him on every medication under the sun and he is an absolute TERROR for BM. I figured it would take longer than two weeks for her to get tired enough of him 24/7 to ALLOW us to take him. And being on my best behavior to deal with her moron of a nephew - yeah, no thanks. I told DH that he is more than welcome to go up to their town to visit, but they are NOT coming here for at least 6 months PERIOD. I've had enough of doing an insane laundry list of nice things for them, while they badmouth me and tell their dad to divorce me. If BM is so wonderful, they can get their fill of her:)