I understand what you're saying. I have SD19 and SS13. During the school year, we have SS EOW and two evenings during the week. SD comes and goes when she wants. They are basically nice kids, however, BM is a nightmare. She PAS's the kids and is constantly doing something to upset the schedule. I've been married to DH for a little over a year, and during that year, the resentment start building. It was due to BM and her stupid games, but I noticed I started resenting the kids. I don't like that I feel that way either. In my case, I think part of it is some other issues in my life that are causing me great stress, so it makes me more impatient with the skid situation.

I don't even mind sharing my DH. I'm pretty independent and never have a problem finding something to do. Of course, my time with DH isn't limited like yours is.

Do your skids ever come and visit in your home, or is DH always doing the traveling? I'm wondering if it would help if they came to see you. You would get more time with DH, even if it is shared time. It might enable you to bond a little more with the kids.

I do hope that venting here relieves some of the frustration you're feeling. Many of us have feelings we'd rather not have towards our step situations. I'm slowly coming to realize that our situation is not going to change, so if I don't want to be miserable all the time, my attitude has to change. Just know that you're not alone in your feelings!

Im like you....Never was maternal......

Of course its not unusual to be annoyed at the thought of sharing your holidays with them skids....

you work hard for your money and why should you have to pay to take them to disney land and pay for their extra room....

We recently drove down to florida myrtle beach etc....I mad it quiet clear to DH, that I was not going to go to kids parks...that this trip was for enjoying sights and whats free....that the kids have all been to these expensive places and no bloody way will I be walking around some amusement park...waste of time waste of money...we can instead go to the beach and swim, have BBQ's on the beach, explore the wilderness etc....

I then went on to say that he is welcome to take his kids along to these places but I hate them and will not be going - ide rather get a root canal filling....

Kids neva came - but they were expecting thats exactly what we were going to do...the moment you say florida...they assume we will go to disney world...OMG get your crazy bitch of a mother to take you there if you wanna go....we give her 300 bucks per week so she can....for crying out loud she could take you on a weekly basis and still have changle left ova

LAG115

Correct. I hate it when she's here (fulltime). He thinks she can do no wrong (she's 15 and a half). I am the one who has caught her out = wicked step mother.

Her mother chose not to look after her, her father, as a male, may not see these these things, once again = try and get them into line and a "wicked person you will become".

I do not think that we need to feel bad bacause of bio parents guilt. Every situation is different xx