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Submitted by Lalena75 on Sun, 12/25/2011 - 4:26pm

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SO's 5 yr old just told us he watched "porn" at his uncles house! His 10 yr old sister confirmed this, the the 5 yr old said his uncle erased it all, though. The BM has a history of boyfriend who are registered sex offenders, and both his 5 and almost 6 year old make many sexually inappropriate comments that they shouldn't even know. My SO is lost what to say and do. Help thoughts what to do next

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Submitted by StubbornEnough on Sun, 12/25/2011 - 5:28pm

I would call Children's services and have the kids interviewed by professionals. This is nothing to mess around with.

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Submitted by HadEnoughx5 on Sun, 12/25/2011 - 5:43pm

Call the Dept.of Children and Families and have an investigation. School counselors can help or pediatrician to find someone who works in child psychology. This is serious and needs to be addressed ASAP.

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Submitted by HadEnoughx5 on Sun, 12/25/2011 - 5:43pm

Call the Dept.of Children and Families and have an investigation. School counselors can help or pediatrician to find someone who works in child psychology. This is serious and needs to be addressed ASAP.

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Submitted by Lalena75 on Sun, 12/25/2011 - 6:16pm

I already called as I'm a mandated reporter, but were aren't sure if we should talk about it with the kids, I say no let the professionals do it so there is no chance of anyone saying we coached them (BM already tried 2 months ago to say her 10 yr old wrote letters accusing SO of molesting her, and she freaked out when he told her he was calling CPS because they both knew it wasn't true and he'd let the authorities handle it). He wants to talk to them to see if there is more we should be worried about, and what is really going on. There is no legal custody aggrement he's contimplating not returning the kids to her.

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Submitted by my.kids.mom on Sun, 12/25/2011 - 11:30pm

If there is no order, he SHOULD NOT send the kids back to her. If there was an order and it was my kids, I'd be taking them. Far away. Unfortunately I know what tends to happen to kids who are exposed to porn at a young age, and it's nothing good. There is no doubt that they need counseling. This is a huge deal. I wish people understood that, but before I found out the hard way, I was very naive about it, and I'm guessing most people are like I was. Take it seriously!!