Is this inappropriate?
I'm not sure of what is appropriate because I had 2 boys. SD walks around the house in boyshorts or a towel and she is not shy in front of her brothers SS13 and SS11. SD doesn't know that SS13 watches what is called 'family porn'. Plots like 'I walked in on my sister masterbating and.....you can imagine the rest. In his phone history he watched a plethora of family porn including fuck your sister, fuck your step sister and fuck your step mother. DH knows this but BM doesn't but I think she should because he spends the night there with his 2 step sisters who are around his age.
I heard SD17 walk down the hall and SS13 asked her, "Can you please stop wearing that around the house, it makes me uncomfortable." I'm not sure what she is wearing because I am in my room. She just got back from meeting her lover so I'm sure if she was dressed enough to be in public, she is dressed enough to walk down the hall in front of her brother. Should SD be wearing more clothing in front of her brothers or will SS13 be a registered sex offender someday if he cant handle seeing his sister in shorts or whatever she is wearing?
Background on SS13, we have been dealing with porn and talking to predators online(only a few years until he is considered the predator) and exchanging pornographic pictures and videos with strangers since he was 11 or even earlier. It went unnoticed until I moved in...surprised?
Background on SD17, she's a bitch.
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I would try and restrict his
I would try and restrict his internet access (put parental controls on) and make sure the females of the house are reasonably covered up.
Sure they may always be able to get access to something somehow, but if you put obstacles in the way it may help prevent a full on addiction, and lessons the chance that they will get bored of what they have and put a search in for something different (or accidentally stumble across really really icky stuff)
I've done all of this. DH
I've done all of this. DH gave it all back in a week. DHs sister was our babysitter the summer that this was discovered and she said all day everyday was a fight to get him off the computer because she knew he was talking to strangers. He aso was a bad influence on her 5 year old the past 2 summers so this summer she doesn't want to babysit. I can't imagine what it will be like with no supervision in this house but DH got me a lock for my door and I'm working on getting cameras. He says no but I'm thinking I'll just get hidden cameras.
Your husband is a major
Your husband is a major problem. Dare I say most of the problem.
Yuck. I'm not sure how you stay with this guy.
UGH
so glad Chef's ferals PASed out! HouseShitter YSS 17 is a perv and all three would run around practically nude thinking none of it. The Animal Torturer SD21.5 at the time 9 yrs old would come bolting out of the shower buck naked screaming with laughter right in front of her brothers.
Definitely log into that router and start putting on some parental controls
I thought the animal torturer
I thought the animal torturer was a boy. my bad lol
I agree this kid needs to be
I agree this kid needs to be on internet lockdown like the above poster said. I’m surprised your partner gave in really and gave him privileges back.
Some days we have to be parents and not friends to our kids for their long term good.
It’s a pity, - does your partner see him as a grown up or friend? For example is he as tall as your partner at this age? Some kids are these days?
Hes still a kid at the end of the day though.
He was a little boy, he had
He was a little boy, he had not even hit puberty. My husband is an idiot and wants to be everyone's favorite all the time. He has 4 kids so he cooks several things for dinner because each child must have something special. When this snot ends up in jail, he will be dead. He is a snowflake of the worst kind as all of the 4 skids are. They live with us 26 days of the month so DH is 100% responsible for the shortcomings of his offspring
The solution to this and many
The solution to this and many of your problems is to leave. I'm not one to have a kneejerk "leave" reaction, but in your case you are never going to be happy in this situation.
Chmmy, I've followed your
Chmmy, I've followed your story from the start. You're a good woman in a bad situation, and I think you're getting ready to solve your problem in the best way.
Regarding your SS, I hope you will reach out to BM about this. Even if she does nothing, she needs to know and you need to do the right thing.
I will always regret not reporting my DH's druggie sister to CPS. Her kids deserved better. It's been over twenty years, and it still weighs on my conscience. Probably wouldn't have changed anything, but it would have been the right thing to do and we should always strive to do the right thing for children.
This is a problem with SS,
This is a problem with SS, not SD. Just like women shouldn't be restricted on what they wear anywhere else in the world because it might "distract men", SD shouldn't be restricted on what she wears because SS has a problem. You DH should ask SS what about SD's dress makes him uncomfortable.