BM and DH have been at ends over CS for a while and it's been getting pretty bad because we live in MX and let me tell you that the corruption here is BEYOND ridicilous.  BM managed to have DH served at his mother's house (we live in a different state) thanks to a nice little "gift" that her lawyer suggested they pay the server.  Our lawyer had already warned us that the judge assigned to our case was not only 100% pro BMs but also 100% AGAINST fathers and we would more than likely have to appeal in order to get a more impartial judge, so the fact the she allowed him to be served this way is not that suprising I guess.

Anyway,  since this whole CS thing started, BM was been making it super difficult to get in touch with SS11.  Anytime DH calls, SS just ran out to the store with someone, or he just got in the shower, or is taking a nap, etc.  Well DH finally had enough of it and asked FIL to check in on him.  Up until the CS issue, FIL was picking up SS and keeping him all weekend, but since DH is refusing to just give in to BM's demands she decided that SS is no longer allowed to see anyone from DH's family. 

So FIL goes to GBM's house, knowing that BM is at work and GBM is the one taking care of him.  He knocks on her door and says he just wants to check in on SS and say hi, she says he's not there.  FIL starts talking louder hoping SS will hear him and SS runs to the door to say hi.  SS and FIL talk for a bit at the curb and FIL asks SS why he isn't wearing shoes or slippers or something.  Apparently he was in the living room with his aunt (BM's sister) and when he heard FIL he made to grab his shoes and his aunt took them from him and said he wasn't allowed to see FIL.  

I know FIL shouldn't have gone to GBM's, but stealing the kid's shoes so he can't say hi to FIL?  That seems a bit extreme to me.  Anyway, BM of course got pissed and called FIL to tell him off and basically said that she can't just allow us all access to SS for so little money.  FIL asks her how much SS is worth, to tell him how much "access" costs so he can bring the money to her.  She tries to back-track and say that's not what she meant but basicaly says that until DH gives her what she wants we can't see SS.   

I am so pissed I can't even think straight.  I felt like she and DH's relationship had improved so much and I feel like we just took 7 years worth of steps back.  Feeling so hopeless in Stepparentville today.