Hi, I have been reading on here for a while but had my first post yesterday and want to say Thankyou for creating a place for us to go. I'd like to tell you a little more about me and my crazy step life. When I met my fiance (we are not married yet but call each other husband and wife) he was living in his home state and All bios (4) lived with BM in another state they had moved to. She had a live in bf at the time but they had been divorced already 5 years. Growing up without my dad I questioned why he didnt see his kids often and he blamed it on BM saying she always said no they couldn't come so I started helping him and investigating starting with the Fathers Rights book. He then found out (he didn't even know) he had joint custody and could have them 50% at least! Not long after the 2 oldest came to live with us and it was my 1st SM experience. It seemed to go too well at 1st. SD11 at the time would call me mom, hope for a baby sister and wonder when we are getting married. Then we started having problems with the teenage son, he ends up going back to bio grandparents who lived near by. Shortly after I had a 1st of many surgeries that would lead to my most recent resulting in a salpingo oophorectomy (removal of ovaries) can't have children.
Daughter decides she wants to live with daddy alone and the 2 go apt hunting, this was the 1st time I was expected to understand. And I did, 2 weeks later I was moving in and 2 weeks later SD goes back to live with biomom. My fiance and I decide to maybe move to where they live to be closer and he loved it there and always wanted to go back, EWs bf breaks up with her and she moves back home by her family and closer to us. We would always go pick up the kids, it was an hour away, she would never meet us and alway expected dad to drop off and pick up. Later we decide to take a vacation to where they used to live and ended up staying, it's not a new place, the kids all grew up here. She had a big problem at first but eventually let the 2 younger ones come stay. Anyway, I know this is getting long and by now I've forgotten my point really but I'm glad to not feel so alone and with 4sk I feel like I can relate to almost all of these. Is there a thread for teenage look a likes (steps that look like BM) that bothers me sometimes, she is really pretty and people tell her all the time how much she could be BM sister. Also I am 34 and my fiance is 42. I am told also that I am beautiful and how beautiful our babies would have been. This makes me sad too. Maybe a forum for SM who want but cannot have children?