NEED advice/help
ok, Sunday night, SD10 finally pushed the right buttons, and I lost it. Granted there were things said that shouldn't have been, but I have since apoligized. (background, been stepmom to 2 girls, 10 and 6 for the last year, BM has had little to no contact in that time, and NO contact in last 6 months.) anyway, SD10 had a loooooonnnngggg talk with DH, while I was gone, (I left after the fight, didn't want to be in the same HOUSE as SD10) Monday, nothing from SD10, no change in attitude, no apology, NOTHING from this brat. DH told her several times that she needed to apoligize, and she gave him the "deer in the headlight look" This morning, same thing, same sh^tty attitude from SD10, not listening, not minding, attitude, mouth and STILL acts like she is cock of the walk. SD10 KNOWS that this behavior don't work when DH is home, and she knows that I will not stand for it, yet, STILL CONTIUNES. I am at the end of my rope with her. :jawdrop: I just had to get onto SD10 for throwing toys at her sister..And SD10 laughed at me and (eye roll) said "whatever" This has just started in the last couple of weeks with her attitude, backtalking, and mouth, . HELP!
I got the same thing from my
I got the same thing from my SD now 10 at Christmas..it was pure hell with this child. So finally I simply told her: "Listen and listen good little girl, I am not your mother, nor do I want to be your mother...but in the house I rule the roost and if you do not obey the house rules there will be consequences and further more if you continue to disrespect me and everyone in the house then you will be on your own. I will not cook for you, do your laundry, I will not take you anywhere, you will not have your friends over, I will not tuck you in a night, you will simply exist in your room and I will have nothing to do with you"" Anyway to make a long story short, I did not bother with her and I didnt do anything for her. She was grounded and finally after a few weeks she snapped out of it because she knew I meant business..
Your DH needs to lay down the law with you beside him....when he told her to apologize and she did not..she should of been reprimanded right then and there...take her electronics away, take away her TV time, her computer time, her friend time...she needs to respect your rules...
What is this with these kids and the lack of respect...arghhhh... Z
thats the funny thing, at the
thats the funny thing, at the moment, she has NOTHING but a bed and dresser in her room, no tv, no Ipod, no toys, NOTHING, we have grounded her, put her with a baby sitter when we take her sister out and this child STILL continues. I can't in good concience "ignore" her, as BM did that to her for all of her life, favoring the younger one and telling older one that she is "useless, fat, ugly, stupid" ect. SD10 was told sunday that "I am NOT your mother, but I am the one that is here, giving a damn, and you nor your mother is NOT the ruler of MY roost." and, after she didnt apoligize, she was diciplined. and it has gotten to the point where I want to find a sitter for her for the summer just so I don't have to deal with her. SD6, i have NO problem with, she is a sweetheart, nice, polite, listens, behaves, ect. SD10, honestly, I can't stand this kid she acts like she is stupid, and plays stupid "because BM does it and it works for her" (yeah, well..........)But I will try that Zoie
It's tough isn't it....I
It's tough isn't it....I didnt ignore my SD either, I simply didnt do the things I normally did but if she spoke to me I did answer her...
Man oh man..maybe enroll her in a self esteem class in your area..or just sit her down the 2 of you and talk to her I mean really talk and listen to her..clearly something is bothering her and she's reacting in a very destructive negative way because she doesn't know how to deal with it...maybe it's the fact that her BM does not want her..who knows but she needs to speak to someone because she's angry....
Z