Motivation for us who are down..
They're not going to love you as if they are you're own. They're not going to respect you as though you are something meaningful in their lives. They are going to take their manipulative mothers side, or their fathers over bearing mans ways of doing things. They are going to be defiant, disrespectful, ungrateful children no matter the extent you go through. You are going to feel uncomfortable, awkward, displaced. Yet, we all came into our relationships with good intentions. You are going to feel like the least possible, displaced person around. You are going to feel hatred, uneasy feelings sometimes when the days turn sour. Yet, at the end of the day what are we here for? If we can't figure it out, then why are we here? Today was full of uneasy, difficulties in so many ways. What am I here for? Who am I here to support? At the end of the day, MY happiness counts for something, and as they say, if you don't stand for something, you fall for anything.. I'm not ready to take that fall, just yet. Just when the going gets rough, I am still here. A big kudos to those who are. I want to join hands and understand that we all have something in common. Let's be tough, be adults, and remember why we are here in the first place. I need the encouragement, and I guarantee so do some of you. We got this! 
We really do!
I'm with you!!!!
I'm with you!!!! Encouragement, what is that anymore? I'm still up at midnight and I have to get up in a matter of hours to go to work because that is the only place I feel like I matter anymore. Home is a place I sleep. It seems like everything I try to do, just winds up backfiring on me in some form or another. I think I need a weekend to get away and I think next weekend will be it for me. I'm scared if I don't "plan" a get away, I might actually run from here kicking and screaming one day and it won't be pretty!!!! Thank God for this site though. It's wonderful to find someplace to speak freely and not having to worry about getting looks, glares or anything!!!!
Hang in there to all of us who feel a little down!!!!
I'm with you ladies. I've
I'm with you ladies. I've had many down days, but I'm glad to say that lately I have not had any of those days. I know that my ss will not love me the same and that he may never know how much I actually do for him. I know that I've spent many days uncomfortable and biting so hard that I'm sure it's about to be severed at some point very soon.
But, I love my husband. He is a wonderful man. I love my family, as dysfunctional as they are. And one day, many years from now, I hope to know that I had something to do with creating a well-rounded, well-adjusted, intelligent man who is able to conquer the world and show kindness as well. He may never acknowledge that I helped to do that, but it doesn't make that fight any less incredible.
And yes, I often want to shake BM around to listen to her little marble size brain rattle around in there - but I know that her issue is not with me, it is with DH, and I don't control that. Whenever I start to think too much about the negative, I interrupt my thoughts with something insanely funny (and usually incredibly inappropriate) that jolts me out of it. I hope it works the same for you.
Good luck, and know that you are not alone!
I think that my DH and I are
I think that my DH and I are living examples that you CAN make it work.
That being said, most of our issues were BM and her psycho vindictive ways. Skids listened to DH who was their primary parent growing up and DH had good boundaries with BM and was not a Disney/Guilty Daddy.
But through PAS and all, we made it. BM was not able to rip us apart. Now she has no control over us anymore and the skids are finally starting to see through her manipulation (must be a little slow on the uptake!).