SS4's 5th birthday this sunday - she lives with BM in another town. We are sending box full of prezzies naturally, but her birthday is same as fathers day here.. our wee 9 month old and I have picked him the perfect fathers day present... but nothing can replace the hurt he feels from missing another of this other kids birthdays.... any ideas!?!?! And we are going down end of september, even though BM has said she doesnt want DH anywhere near her or the children... she is still bitter after 2 years...