I'm glad I found this site as it has really opened my eyes to my possible future. I had posted a question about how to handle my BF's daugther not wanting to meet me and received a lot of feedback. I have to say I was hoping for some positive ideas, but I got a good reality check instead I think. In my naivety I guess I was thinking that eventually things would work and improve and I guess they can, but it doesn't seem like the likely outcome. Especially when the BM only supports the 12 yr old having all the power. Yes, my BF is also to blame for that situation too as that is how she was raised. Trying to change it now being the non-custodial parent is awful. She is supposed to (finally) start counselling this week.

I have decided I am just going to back off the whole issue of meeting her. From what I've read here, I'm better off anyway. He can stop trying to talk to her to meet "that rotten person". My only issue now is to decided about the relationship itself since I need to ask if what I want full time is to see someone every other weekend and once a week. (Gee, it's like visitation, lol). I have been alone much of my marriage (17yrs) as he was gone for work and also emotionally unavailable and quite frankly I am tired of being alone. I am not with my BF because I don't want to be alone, believe me, I have lots of experience and have done well with being alone, I just don't want to spend the rest of my life that way. I have a good life by myself, but just wanted someone to share it with me. Finding someone without kids at my age is going to be unlikely, but there has got to be some successful blended families, right?