My husband and I have just had the same argument again.... It's about him planning his "man trips" when SD is home. I think two weekends out of each month should plenty of time away with the boys. Stay home when SD is here. I feel terrible. I do not dislike my SD, but we are not close. And I don't want to babysit!!!! She is 12. Not old enough in my book to stay at home alone. He gets so mad because I want him here when she is here. Spend time with her, or make a dad and daughter trip! I think it would be the greatest and have suggested it several times. He makes me feel like I'm the mean Step mom. He told me I'm hurting him because I don't feel the same way about SD as I do my birthchild. I Can't help the way I feel. I don't know what to do. I just know I'm tired of having the same fight over and over. I also want to add, that I have never asked, or expected him to watch my daughter for nights out or events. I always make arrangements if I want to go do something. Never would say "by the way I'm going out this weekend with the girls".I've told him- I don't do that to him and I don't want him to do it to me. Then we have the same argument once again! I love my husband, but this is so frustrating for me!!