I felt like I was on the phone all day yesterday. I did end up writing a e-mail to my Ex H regarding the kids, and his issues with our daughter. I tried to be non judgemental with my words, but also wanting to get to the bottom of what was going on, and about his anger towards our daughter. I got his reply the next day, and I was surprised that he took it well, and asked me to call so we could talk about it. When I called, our daughter answered and told me that she and her dad had a good talk the night before, because of my e-mail, and were able to work some things out. It was then that I could breath again!! I was hoping that the e-mail would not provoke a fight. Then my Ex got on, and "vented/admitted" to how stressed he was, some of the things that the kids have been doing to "test" him, (they do push his buttons at times, like all kids) and how our daughter is a teen ager now, and it's showing in her behavior, and it's hard for him sometimes. This talk we had was like 2 hours, and in the end he did say that he will try not to yell so much, and will stop with the name calling. It did hurt his feelings to know that our daughter was starting to think he hated her. Big wake up call. So all is well now, and hopeful that when issues like this come up, we can keep working together on it in a civil manner. We usually do, but we have also had our tough times. I did learn some thing yesterday......I don't have to agree with everything my Ex says, as we view some things differently, but as long as the kids are o.k., let it slide without comment. It helps keep things in perspective. Now the second call I got yesterday was from my SS, he was with my MIL at the time (she took skids out for a visit). It was nice to hear from him, but he did not want to talk about anything much, except how much he misses us. His tone was different. I told him I love him, he said it back in a voice that just pulled at my heart. He does not know that my MIL will be here in a few days to see us, MIL just did not mention it, she called us after she dropped skids off, and said that if she told SS to pack his stuff and come up here with her, he would have it done in 2 min. ! That was the same additude I picked up on too. I did say to him that we want to get down to FL soon to see him (that's the only way it will happen) at MIL's house. Hopefully before the summer hits, we can go for a few days, it's just always a money being tight issue. But it needs to be done. Torn in two over this, but need to remember, this was not my doing. It makes me wonder, when he gets a bit older, just how long he will live in Fl. w/ his BM.??