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Submitted by Frankman925 on Sat, 01/03/2009 - 3:31pm

My SD12 is the laziest, most spoiled rotten girl I know! So far for Christmas break, she got to go to Chicago for a week and stay at the Four Seasons, shop and eat out at expensive restaurants. She got home and went skiing practically every day (at $60 a pop!), stayed up until dawn on New Year's Eve, and laid in bed in between. She has had no responsibilites around the house and hasn't even cleaned up dirty dishes in her room. She lost her ski jacket and cell phone, which BM ran out and got new ones without punishment or trying to find them. BM, by the way, is just as spoiled and lazy as SD. Even my 2 1/2 year old son will walk into her room and say "room mess". We have her pretty much full time and I can't wait for school to start again! H doesn't think much of it...he thinks some of this behavior is out of line but isn't willing to lay down the law. Overall, he feels that it's her vacation, so she can do what she wants to. My children will never behave like this. Even if they try, I won't let them grow up to be a waste to society like SD. This is going to be the girl who lives off of Mommy and Mommy's sugar daddy, will never work and always get what she wants. It drives me crazy because my H and I work hard for what we have. Oh...listen to this. A few weeks ago at dinner, SD made a comment about how she couldn't understand why some parents don't leave their money to their children when they die. I told her not expect anything because we are going to enjoy retirement and spend what we've saved because it's OUR money. She was shocked that we would even think of spending money and not give it to her. She was even more shocked to learn that my jewelry would be going to MY daughter and not her. She has her own mother for that! I told my husband that I want to make a will now. I can't take any chances of her getting her dirty little paws on my stuff!

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Submitted by Anon2009 (not verified) on Sat, 01/03/2009 - 4:23pm

OMG... why, why is your DH not doing anything to correct SD12? He's not doing her any favors in the long run by allowing her to behave like this! I think your SD needs to change, for sure, but in order for that to happen, your DH needs to get his parenting act together!

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Submitted by brutallyhonest on Sat, 01/03/2009 - 5:22pm

I've often thought I need to make up a will well in advance of actually needing one. I'd rather leave my worldly possessions to a museum or public radio than SD. BF is older, so chances are I'll be the last one left to divide up our stuff. I plan to save pictures or mementos for her, but money, the house, furniture..... hell no.

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Submitted by NCMilGal on Sat, 01/03/2009 - 10:47pm

that my garnet jewelry will be going to SDstb13. Her birthday is 3 days before mine, and I don't have any other younger family members with January birthdays to give it to. Not that garnets are expensive though.

As I told my mother when she told me that she and Dad were having money issues - DH and I are not having kids, so when I die, it'll all go to a home for indignant cats. That got a giggle out of her. It was my way of offering to help out now.

SD stb 13 is being conditioned by BM to have the "important" things in life - good hair and makeup, and brand-name labels. She expressed a wish for a Mustang when she turned 16 over Christmas, and the snorted answer from both of us was, "Good luck paying for that!" DH has already agreed to cut her off monetarily at 18, or at the very most, exchange a percentage of tuition for grades in college. We haven't made wills yet, but we don't really have much. My SD is much less spoiled, sounds like, and is sweet-natured as well, so if we can resist BM's influence, she might actually become a productive member of society.

~Trish

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Submitted by disgusted on Sun, 01/04/2009 - 6:23am

I think its really wierd that a 12 year old would be concerned about what is being left to her when you and dh pass away!! That just doesn't seem to be a topic that a 12 year old would even think about or concern herself with. Sounds like BM has been discussing it with step kid to me!!

My step brat is equally lazy and dirty if allowed to be. She would be just fine to sit on her bubble butt and let everyone else clean up after her. I flat refuse..We are not her maid!! Sorry to hear you having to deal with that and I know how impossible it can be to deal with filth and laziness if DH won't support you in that situation!

I guess all you can do is refuse to pick up after her and make him do it..Good Luck!

In a perfect world their would be retroactive abortion capabilities. ~ disgusted