hmmm FSS is sabotaging my wedding?
Just got an intersting email from FMIL she states that FSS stb 19 is doing what he can to keep FH and me from getting married. This is the kid who doesnt have a job smokes all kinds of things drinks- 9 grade education..and he thinks he is smart enough to do WHAT?
seems like FSS doesnt like the fact that I make FH stick to the rules that we both agreed on. So FSS thinks if he ignores his dadand goes to live with the mom maybe turn siblings against us that he will stop the wedding.
Really? lets see, hmmmm I have a job.. i keep the house clean do my part in paying the bills, make FH happy...hmmm and FSS does oh wait NOTHING>
can you believe this?
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this is strange
did she elaborate??? just by trying to turn the kids??? uh, last time i checked, the kids have no say in who mom and dad marry, but thats just me.
"Given the right reasons and the right two people, marriage is a wonderful way of experiencing your life."
~the late great George Carlin
oh no!
It sounds like a pitiful attempt to me, and anyone with any sense whatsoever would see right through it. I wish MIL hadn't even told you! mine drops lovely bombs like that on me too, but for what purpose? are you and MIL close?
When is the wedding scheduled?
"A lie told often enough becomes the truth." - Vladimir Lenin
Wow, Sarah...
You must really LOVE this guy to put up with these "kids" of his...
You definitely have the RIGHT attitude...why, exactly, would his dad leave YOU? To spend the rest of his life hanging out with HIM? My SDs tried to
"divide and conquer", too, but to no avail. "Daddy" knows he has it too good and would rather have FUN than listening to their YAKKING, too.
So, let him dream on, I suppose...at least he has a DREAM. Unfortunately, not his OWN, he has to "steal" from YOU, the little creep...
"No one can make you feel inferior without your consent."-Eleanor Roosevelt
thanks for the smile
I do love him and his son is just a footprint in the sand ya know.
I dont scare easily either. and I know there is no way in HELL that FH would not want to get married, I think he has finally seen the light when it comes to hellboy.
"Better a diamond with a flaw than a pebble without one."
pitiful indeed
I am getting close to MIL and I truly believe she thinks she is doing the right thing by "warning" me...
but I agree most evil I wish she would not have said anything but to I guess it will help me by making me more aware of his antics and the reasons (as if there are any) for them.
the wedding is in Sept.
"Better a diamond with a flaw than a pebble without one."
Yes
I guess it is better to know, so you can keep your eyes open. But I don't think SS can really do anything!! Congratulations, btw!!!!
Susan
"A lie told often enough becomes the truth." - Vladimir Lenin
if he could
do anything I would so be out the door or he would be since it is my house!!
truly though he does put our relationship first, just sometimes he needs a good knock in the head HEY YA YA's oops I mean ST world tour ...I am over here!
"Better a diamond with a flaw than a pebble without one."
Wow, SB you
just can't cut a break with this kid can you? What a loser! Does BF know about ss's plans?
you said it Sia
ya know like all of us I tried to be a good role model for him I tried to show him respect and caring..
let his BIOmom deal with him ..she is part of why he is what he is.
I doubt FH would think that his bioson would want to do anything that dastardly
I am going to keep it under my hat until I have more to go on..
"Better a diamond with a flaw than a pebble without one."
So, SarahB
I think it is smart of you to just let it go. Don't say a word to FH. FSS will become his own worst enemy in all of this. If YOU mention it to FH, you could potentially end up looking like the bad guy (gee,like we haven't seen THAT happen before????)
It's nice that your Future MIL wants to give you the 'head's up' but I'd just be cautious and not play into any family drama and drop it. It's absoutely amazing to me how quickly these things can blow up in your face.
Let them blow up in FSS' face instead and be the class-act we all know you are!
"If you have never been hated by a child, you have never been a parent."
-Bette Davis
thanks 5t
I have a feeling that there might be more to this then meets the eye anyway.
but I am going to play it safe, especially since we havent seen hide nor hair from FSS
since T-day wwweeeee!!
ooo I am evil.
"Better a diamond with a flaw than a pebble without one."
You're not evil, SarahB
You DEFINITELY deserve this break from FSS, especially after all the crap he's put you through! I will keep my fingers (and toes) crossed for you that the peace and serentiy continue in your home...
It's amazing how ONE person can cause so much turmoil and upheaval to a family, and when they leave, there is such a sense of PEACE! I love that feeling. I had it for 3 weeks in the summer when SD16 went to her "drama camp" (how appropriate!). It was a glorious time and EVERYONE in the family felt the change and commented on it (I was the only one who kept my mouth shut with any nasty comment- I was so proud of myself
)
"If you have never been hated by a child, you have never been a parent."
-Bette Davis
keeping my mouth closed
has always been a challenge -any pointers?
I am getting better at it though.
I am going to enjoy everyday that we have peace over at our little abode.
DRAMA camp to funny and yeah appropriate. maybe you should knick name her Sarah B since she is also considered a drawa queen?? LOL
thanks for all your support 5T it is awesome how you come to my rescue when you also have so much going on.
hugs
"Better a diamond with a flaw than a pebble without one."
No pointers to give on "keeping my mouth shut"
And I have to tell you, quite honestly- I amaze myself sometimes!
There are SO MANY occasions when I would just LOVE to say what's on my mind...like the all the times when the phone rings 5 minutes after the SDs arrive here for their time with us, and it's crazy BM, calling like clockwork to bug them already....
I see the number and stand there looking at it, and think to myself, "God, I would just LOVE to pick up the phone and say, 'Leave them the hell alone Fruit Loop- they JUST GOT HERE! Get yourself a frickin' life!' "
But I don't. I just walk away from the phone.
I guess maybe I figured that when it comes to unstable people (like BM and SD) speaking your mind doesn't do any good, so why get myself upset? If I just walk away and bite my tongue, I'm probably better off in the long run! I don't know if it's true or not, but I guess that's where my thiking is.
"If you have never been hated by a child, you have never been a parent."
-Bette Davis