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I have come to the realization

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Submitted by torturedmommydearest on Tue, 07/22/2008 - 12:55am

that nothing I do for my skids will ever be enough. I love my DH and feel terrible for him when both BM and his kids treat him like poop. I finally realize I have to stop getting stressed about it and live my life. I am a "fixer" and this is something I have tried, but can't fix. I am not buying school clothes, bday or christmas this year. It is all on him and I am not even going to remind him of it b/c I do not care if they get another thing from me. I have exhausted my love, money and energy on these two very spoiled children and enough is enough! We just got back from vacation and I am not planning one for next year (not for them any way). I deserve better and frankly so does my DH and all of the others who have to put up with all of the junk from exes and their brainwashed kids.

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Submitted by BabygotBack1988 on Tue, 07/22/2008 - 3:48am

deserve better.i personally now see i had a lucky esape from all of this i never had to do nor would i of the skids get enough any way with BM so why should u worry about it

keep ya chin up

life is a box of choclates you never know what your going to get (i always pick the coffe of the box what about you ) Blum 3

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Submitted by Dreamer on Tue, 07/22/2008 - 6:38am

I'm with you 100%

~Don't fear the thorns among the Roses, but be greatful for the Roses among the thorns~

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Submitted by SerendipitySM on Tue, 07/22/2008 - 8:56am

Good for you - I too have come to the recent realization that nothing I do or could ever do will be enough so I have slowly been relinguishing a lot of duties back onto my FH.

Inside every cynical person, there is a disappointed idealist. - George Carlin

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Submitted by laurels4u on Tue, 07/22/2008 - 9:04am

I hit that point about two or three months after I married my DH and his baggage. It's tiring trying to fix everyone and everything around you because they're not adult enough to do it. It's tiring being the only one who worries constantly about vindictive outlaws and a manipulative, conniving EW. It's exhausting having to cater and bow to people who constantly disregard the good you do for them.

Since Dh's son moved, I just deal with a depressed DH with misdirected anger. I don't know which was worse - then or now!

On a sidenote: The first summer we were married, my DD's dance company was invited to go to Disney and dance to which DH said absolutely not, so we all stayed home that summer. And then we stayed home last summer because DH's kid was always with BM or his grandparents and DH was afraid to go anywhere w/o him so I finally said enough of this crap. DD and I leave for Disney World in three weeks without DH or his son. And we're bloody excited. Go on your own vacation and enjoy it!!!!!!!!!!!! You do deserve better.

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Submitted by Sia on Tue, 07/22/2008 - 11:01am

started to disengage with skids. I did everything for them and got NOTHING in return. No love....nothing. Good for you sista!!!

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Submitted by now4teens on Tue, 07/22/2008 - 3:28pm

Was that my shampoo talking???

No, it was the realization that finally dawns on us that "no amount will never be good enough" when it comes to our SKids.

That's a hard pill to swallow for those of us who are natural caregivers, isn't it? We want to 'do' for them, but after years of getting kicked in the teeth, it's impossible to keep smiling.

So in order to save your sanity, it's the only solution you can reach.

Good for you that you're putting yourself first. Sorry to hear that it's come to this point.

"If you have never been hated by a child, you have never been a parent."
-Bette Davis