SD goes back and forth but mainly it's "My Mom" and I think it's to clarify or reiterate that I am not her mom, in a household where I am mom to everyone else. DH thinks it is to convince herself about doubts she has about her mom. She used to do it about everything here - "my cat, my dog" and we had to break her of it.

But since I had Anna SD doesn't usually say "my dad" anymore.

Peace, love, and red wine

I listen to my BS talk about me to his friends and he always refers to me as "my mom." He refers to his dad as "my dad." I hear him talking to his grandparents on the phone about us and he refers to me as "my mom" and DH as "my dad." My BD5 introduces me to her little friends as "my mama" and her father as "my daddy." When my skids talk about their mother, they refer to BM as "my mom." So... why would it be any different for them to refer to their dad as "my dad"? My kids refer to their father as "my dad," so why wouldn't my skids refer to their father as "my dad"? I've noticed that as all of them have gotten older - kids and skids alike - they are more likely to refer to DH as "my dad" rather than as "Daddy." I don't think it's any big deal. There are sooooo many bigger fish to fry.

♥ Georgia ♥

"Good men don't just happen. They have to be created by us women." (from ROSEANNE)

Ss always referred to Dh as "my Dad" no matter who he was talking to or where he was. We were successful at breaking him of it at our house but if he is anywhere else or talking to anyone but us he still does it. I think it stems from living with his mom the first 6 years of his life. I think she would always say "your dad" did this or "your dad" did that.

Dawn

For the longest time DH refered to BM as "mommy" when he was talking to the skids. I think it is just habit for him. It has always kinda bothered me, but never enough to really say anything until the last 6 months or so. After all, what if by some miracle I become a mother? So I told him, but I was ready for him to tell me I was over-reacting, but he agreed and has been making an effort to say "your mother". I think the skids have noticed because they used to occasionally say "my mom" mixed in with "mommy", but now (especially SD12) always says "mommy" with emphasis, but I don't know if I'm imagining the emphasis or not.

On the other hand, when I call my parents I use "dad" or "my dad" interchangably when talking to my mom, and the same when I talk to my dad. I think it is all about the tone of how they say it. If it is said in a really snotty way, then yes, she's making an issue of posession. But it is also possible that it is just whatever pops out of her mouth.

I'm not sure kids really mean anything by it...it's just what they say. I know when my SK's were little, I was "my Mary"....

"SOME PEOPLE WEREN'T MEANT TO HAVE CHILDREN"

When referring to their mother or father, most kids usually use "my" in front of it. I've noticed it with all kinds of kids, not just kids of blended families. I think it's just an indentifier to them.

*~So sayeth Nymh~*

the youngest calls me "my lana" and the older boys always say my dad and i know for a fact that they dont do it to show possession or put me in my place.

SOME kids know exactly what theyre doing and how to do it...and unfortunately, SOME do it for that reason. dont u just love how some people are so naive or ignorant and think that kids dont do things like this intentionally?? the old "oh hes/shes only a kid" like they dont know any better! bs! FSD is only 2 1/2 and dont think that just bc shes that young that she doesnt know what shes doing when she crawls on daddy when im sitting next to him or interrupts when im talking to him.

we need to be very careful about which battles we fight. i don't believe this is one. when my SS12 calls and asks for 'my dad', i don't blink an eye. why? because it IS 'his dad.' what bothers me however, is when i answer the phone and instead of saying "hello moody blue, is my dad there?"....instead he doesn't greet me and immediately asks for his dad. that's where i interrupt him and say 'hello. how are you?' and force him to acknowledge me. it's just rude otherwise. but asking for 'his dad', well, not a biggie. believe me, there are MUCH bigger issues that we are dealing with than that. we also should give these kids a little bit of rope sometimes. i don't believe expecting them to be completely at home and comfortable in this blended family (where even we aren't yet) is realistic.

Just trying to be a Stepmom without getting Stepped On.

how sometimes these skids can be moody one minute and even tempered the next. my ss12 treats me and my daughter pretty much don't exist - and he sucks up to his dad constantly in front of us - almost sending us the message 'it was me and him BEFORE you two came along' and yet i have been nothing but respectful and sensitive toward him. i guess all i can say to him is this: you'll be 18 in five years and out on your ass to get a life, but i and your little half-sister are here for a long long time. so yes, by all means, enjoy your time now while you're a kid, GOD ONLY KNOWS what a tough life you have had thus far (said very sarcastically). i have now learned to turn such a deaf ear and blind eye to him and his attitudes now that at times i feel guilty because i can barely bring myself to even speak to him. this is such a tough and scarey road we walk as stepmoms. and unfortunately, the world already views us negatively from the get go. we're up against alot from the start. so i say, screw em all. deaf ear,blind eye. and lock yourself in your bedroom and watch a movie. *sigh*

Just trying to be a Stepmom without getting Stepped On.