Update to Need Advice and Help
SD was taken to docs today - they are now sending her to a clinic here that specializes in abuse which until further testing cannot be ruled out or determined. They are on the way to the social worker now and I did not go because I didn't want them to think we have anything but the best interest of the children at heart. His mom has accompanied him as he literally was beyond himself crying.
Please pray for those girls today. Thank you all for your assistance and prayers.
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You are in my prayers
I'm so sorry. I hope only good things come from this. If it is abuse be glad you found out before something really bad happened. As for not wanting to go with your husband: You are her family too! My lawyer tells me that if whatever we are doing, that if it involves the Skids and/or the BM, that we need to do it together. To always show a unified front. That way no one thinks your not there because you have something to hide.
You will most likely have to meet with Social Services anyway. I had to when we turned BM in. They will want to meet with you alone. And if a investigation is required don't be afraid but along with the BM, you will most likely have to have a home study too. They just come in and make sure your home is safe, that the kids have their own room and not sharing with you, that there's food in the kitchen, and you have clothing for the kids. They also check that if you have guns, that they are in a gun safe or lock box and that the keys are not where the kids can get them. (I know this b/c my husband hunts) It usually takes about an hour.
But know that you and your family are in my prayers. I wish I could give a hug and a shoulder to cry on... sorry
Don't fear the thorns among the Roses, but be greatful for the Roses among the thorns
Thanks guys - latest update
Thanks guys - latest update - social services here determined that the social services dept in her state does need to be contacted - we were given antibiotics and creme for her and the social worker was excellent in advising us of the steps to take and what we need to do - offered there assistance in any way. I will update more as I know more.
Thinking of you!
Just wanted to let you know that. Keep us posted and I'll keep my fingers crossed for the best.
♥ Georgia ♥
"Good men don't just happen. They have to be created by us women." (from ROSEANNE)
The thing is this alone is
The thing is this alone is enough to warrant the investigation - this isn't including the mounds of info I have that she herself posted on the internet. I have photocopies of all of her web pages, detailing the various men, the constant partying, the restraining orders for her current husband, (not sure if their divorce is final) and we haven't even got into the fact that she isn't taking her medication, the fact that she is never home during the week, that the 7 yo has been forgotten at school, so on and so on.
I hope it all works out...
even an emergency temporary order to keep them where you are until it can all get sorted out.
My fingers are crossed for you too...
"Life isn't about waiting for the storm to pass...It's about learning to dance in the rain."
Unfortunately it would be
Unfortunately it would be presumptuous to file that now and would look as if we simply took her for that reason whereas when can file with the DHR there and show that we didn't take extreme action and followed the social worker's advice and plan to a T.
Has anyone ever went through something similar?
OMG!!! Great news - the atty
OMG!!! Great news - the atty that I work for just offered to loan us the money for the retainer and he himself is looking for the best atty in the state there.
Wow
Wow, it's great that you have such support from work. Good luck in everything and I'll be praying for your family!