just becuse i talk to you it doesn't mean that im going to sleep wiht you
tad long but funny and PG 13, minors need not read 
so i met this guy a while back
he seemed like a cool dude and we got along nicely
at that time he gave me his number but i lost it ( maybe that was a good thing)
anyhoo months later i saw him in a store and he invited me out ( sorta)
so we went for a cup of coffee started chatting and such and exchanged numbers
so after a few phone calls
i invited him out for a movie or somthin
he seemed kool with it
but i can barley take time off cuse i have finals and G to take care of,so it was pretty hard setting up a date
so the guy calls me back and is like "why don't we get a room and some wine and just enjoy ourselves" (strike 1)
I was like i hope ur not inviting me to no motel
his response was " well where else are we gonna get a room" (strike 2)
so i said I hope u don't think im gonna fuck u cuse im not like that
so hes like " ok well why don't we go out to dinner" so i said lemme see if i can get a baby sitter , and i'll call u back i know this was stupid of me but i guess i just wanted to get away for a bit and it didn't matter w/who
and stupid me i always give a person the benifet of the doubt
anyway i call him back and ask if he wants to go out around 6pm and he was like
"oh i have to pay some bills at that hour" so i said fine and left it at that
so we don't talk for a while and i was kind of brushing him off and what not
and lo and behold last night he calls me
and asks me if i have some free time
i respond that maby and what did he have in mind to do
his response " i wanna do you" (strike 3)
i was like "excuse me?? and he laughed and said something on the lines of "your a very attractive woman and some other nonsense that i didn't care for
at first i thought it was the funniest thing
cuse i was slightly interested in this guy but like i told him before i wasn't going to jump in bed w/him
anywho i just told him " if your looking for sex im not really interested, if u wanna go see a movie or something thats fine" ( yeah stupid me giving him the benifet of the doubt AGAIN) I really need to stop doing that with people
so the guy is like ok movies fine
so i was said ok do u wanna go see cloverfield
and he was all like "oh i don't like horror, turns out he didn't like any kind of movies that wasn't comedy or action and was a pussy when it comes to forgien films because he doesn't like to read subtitles. ( kind of reminded me of my ex at that moment)
so i was said well then its the middle of winter and i already had dinner so all i can think of is a movie or something and it seems that ur not very interested
and he said " well i already told u what i wanna do" and i told him
dude im not going to fuck you
he then went into the explanation of why women have "timeliness" and if a guy is gonna play you he will do it while he was "waiting" and how he wasn't gonna play me "after he hit it" ( and this is him all assuming that im going to fuck him after i told him i wasn't going to) and how older guys were different and it basically turned into the oddest conversation that I've had in a while
him basically asking me why i wouldn't fuck him and me telling him the reasons why i wouldn't fuck him then him continuing to ask and say that he wanted something sirous and some other bull crap.
oh and then he starts saying stupid ass shit like
" i wanna kiss you and caress your body" and this was my breaking point i just started laughing my ass off i couldn't help it
he was too pathetic and i found it so freaking hilarious
then all i said was something on the lines of
" i think your moving to fast for me"
so he said ok, i guess i call you later and hung up
so even though i find this terribly amusing i also find it a tad bothersome i mean
just because i talk to you im not going to fuck u
and if i was, i would have proposed it first
anyway what the fuck has happened to asking a girl out on a date
im not very romantic but really if ur interested at least buy me dinner get to know me before u start up on asking for fucks
i have no problem with fuck friends
but if u want that
BE MY FRIEND FIRST
i mean really has society come so low that a guy automatically assumes just because he talks to a girl hes gonna get booty???
what ever happened to self respect it appears that men just automatically assume that a girl with sleep with them for no apperant reason, all they have to do is stand there and say " hay baby"
fuck...now im annoyed
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you win
I have been feeling sorry for myself with my still mending heart and dates I just cannot get excited about , but this loser making these assumptions with you???obvious only one body part leads his decisions , hang in there, it has to get better
"We don't understand life anymore at 40 then at 20, but we know it and admit it" Jules Renard
only thing I can say
at least if nothing else he let you know what a prick he was up front..save you ALOT of time and trouble!!
“You will never be on top of the world
if you try to carry it on your shoulders.”
well i have to admit
he did save me a lot of trouble and i found him quite amusing with constant horniness thing , however I'm beginning to wonder where all the decent "i want to get to know u before i say anything about sex" guys are. I'm sure they exists somewhere but they must all be taken or holed up in boondoxville cuse i ain't seeing none around here.
Krikas ANdantes
Whew!
I thought I was the only one with this problem. The last guy I gave my number to gave me a bad feeling, but I gave him the benefit of the doubt too. Immediately he went for the sexual innuendoes. So, I told him I didn't appreciate that & he wasn't getting any immediately. He denied he did it (insulting my intelligence) & kept doing it (disrespecting my boundaries.) Ok, even if I am reading too much into things, don't disrespect my boundaries. I flat out told him to forget it. So he kept calling & calling, disrespecting my boundaries again. He stopped for a while. Then I got a phone call from a totally new number & thought it was some delivery guys, but no, it was him. He caught me, so I again gave him the benefit of the doubt & actually talked to him. He confronted me about it all, & I flat out told him the truth (if he asks, he's going to get the truth, I dont' play that crap) Of course, I was being a typical girl (I'm a grown ass woman, thanks) & reading too much into what he was saying. Then he kept talking about it after I gave him the answer. Maybe he wanted me to apologize, but I'm not going to apologize for enforcing my boundaries which he was totally blowing off. They are my right & it's my right to expect others to respect them. Then he proceeded to ask me how big my boobs were... I kid you not. When I got off the phone with him I felt even worse about him. He called me for about 5 weeks after that & I wouldn't answer. Not only that, but I got some weird numbers from out of town (where he had come from) a couple times. He finally stopped calling me.
Look, I don't care about what games other 'girls' have played, I am a grown ass woman. I say what I mean, & I mean what I say. When I say 'back the hell off' then that means back the hell off. When I say 'I need you to slow down' I'm not playing hard to get... I mean I need you to slow down. And no means no. Period.
What the hell happened to respect? For me, it's not even worth dating, because it's not fun. I'd love to be able to just go out & enjoy myself & my date's company.
Hipi
When you wish upon a falling star, your dreams can come true. Unless it's really a meteorite hurtling to the Earth which will destroy all life. Then you're pretty much hosed no matter what you wish for. Unless it's death by meteor.
your right
it looks like guys just have this automatic assumption that a your going to sleep w/them cuse u give them your number or talk to them
(danm all those nasty hoes). all i really want is cool guy that i can have a conversation with...looks like their not many around here hmmm i should move from this state it's too cold anyway.
Krikas ANdantes
I died laughing reading this
What a Maroon! To quote Bugs Bunny.
I see the other side of the coin. The women with 4 different kids from four different fathers. The women who either don't consider me because I am a lawyer or consider me only because I am a lawyer -- hey, I make a lot of money and of course I will automatically give it to them because they are cute right? The ex gf wanted a $10k engagement ring and a $500k house -- but wouldn't have her kids treat me in a respectful manner.
For some strange reason now, I respect my ex wife more. She struggled along with me when I was starting my practice and didn't complain (that much). Reading this post makes me realize there are a lot of very, very stupid people out there.
Kevin
$10K Ring & $500K Home...I've heard that one.
A builder I work with has this same trouble with his long-time girlfriend, but he hasn't seen the light that this chick is only out for his money. They have been dating since high school and he's a little younger than me, so it's been about a 10 years or more relationship. He absolutely adores this girl, but she refuses to "lower her standards." She actually refused to marry him until he bought a nicer house. Um, ok, let's see his current house is up for sale for nearly $300K?? That's about $100K more than ours. Ok, so how is that not nice enough for her? It's beyond me---the girl's attitude & the guy for sticking around her so long.
People like her just kill me. I mean really, I clip coupons to save us every nickel and dime (saved over $25 last week on groceries). Then this girl wants to blow every cent a guy makes & then some. :?
"Sometimes you have to test the limits to show you're not a doormat."
Seeing it from the opposite
Seeing it from the opposite point of view is always a good thing.
Kevin, think of it this way... into the first five minutes of the first date the young lady starts talking about the new car you are going to buy her before the night is over. When you realize she's not joking, you inform her that she's not getting a new car & she spends the rest of the night arguing with you instead of just enjoying your company. What a blast... NOT.
Men also have money issues as well. I was talking to this really nice guy who asked me twice what I did for a living. When he found out I like to shop I didn't hear from him again. That's pretty lame, because I make good money & my credit is excellent. I don't need his money to shop, I use my own & I like it that way. There are also some men who have a problem that I make more money than them. Sigh.
Of course, I'm sure there are many women out there who are just as much of a pain in the rear, but why are all these people so prevalent?!!!!
Hipi
When you wish upon a falling star, your dreams can come true. Unless it's really a meteorite hurtling to the Earth which will destroy all life. Then you're pretty much hosed no matter what you wish for. Unless it's death by meteor.
hmmm
it looks to me that we seem to be in the same boat I attract losers and you attract money hoe's ...lol
Krikas ANdantes
Stunner
Hipichik, you reminded me of something, when I was married it seemed women would meet me and ask "what does your husband do?", in first few minutes as if deciding if I was worthy of knowing depending on my answer and reducing the man I was married to only his job title.
I would answer , "for fun or money, which are you interested in? "
My ex made good money by the time we divorced,but threw it all out the window at strip bars or buying drinks for all his friends, ( I feel in his defense he would do whatever it takes to care for his children, just not their futures)
but the men I observe who work,budget, plan and save with their wives(yes, I am fortunate to know men like this)that is what I want. I would rather have a man who makes $40,000 and will do all the above(without crossing that fine line of being cheap) then one who has NO regard for his families security.
When in his arms ,I don't want him worried about how he will pay for my shopping addiction(Hipichik, this is not shopping with a job in our budget shopping like u were saying)and I don't want to wonder what bookie , strip bar queen or unneeded sports equipment store just got next months rent!
I want us to think about each other and the grandkids we are going to spoil with the retirement we have saved , God willing!
The first man I dated after my divorce , I started dating when I thought he was a teacher and I was so crazy about him , no job would have kept me away, turned out he made $175,000+ . I still never expected anything and appreciated his modest living style because he was building a business, which takes investment for years with the hope of payoff later.
So many people think , he owns his own business , he is rich, take a business course or two.
My exfiance, another "business owner" whose children believed the he is rich thing, not true , paid himself little , put money back into work and at 57 had a 1/4 of the retirement I have. His EXSTEPdaughter accused me of wanting to "DUPE HIM" 2x,and informed me 1/4 what he had was hers. I found this interesting when I was discussing my FEELINGS for the man, not his bank account!
Where was she when I needed her to close my droped in shock mouth and to feed me that response? LOL
One of my girlfriends told me when this little you-owe-me-the-world claimed whatever he had, I should have responded " oh, well then I am out of here!"
He also talked me into this house saying we needed a big one for when the kids visit(well 3 of them moved here and in with him, rent free)
The one I wanted was smaller but to me had more character , was on over an acre , and had a barn , all in the city, and was oh about $150,000 cheaper!!
Then there is the "I make money so sleep with me attitude"
I have had men at church do what I described to my mother as reading off the acquisitions sheet routine. they tell you about their lake house , their new car, harley, boat, cabin with 4 wheelers your boys would love,the jewelry store they own(wink, wink).
Why don't they just call us whores if they think they can buy us, oh , I know because they can buy what they want, which is NOT what I am looking for.
I have always worked , even if minimal part time when the boys were small and years my youngest ahd 40 hours+ therapy a week that I supervised , even if to buy my H something with money my hands had earned and to buys a few extras and I can support myself when needed.
Bottom line:
I could be married to the wrong person for money,sadly I would wager within a year easily, but at what costs?
As for the presumptious men,ladies surprise those men , give them what they need, it is only natural for men to expect to get this after the wonderful way they have treated you,they deserve everything they are asking for......................................................................................buy a stun gun! LOL I do believe that si what they are asking for!