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Submitted by peachymom on Tue, 01/08/2008 - 10:48am

So DH came home yesterday afternoon. We where able to talk calmly about what happened. And have decided to attend counciling, both couple, and indivually. DH has also agreed to start going back to his CA meetings, and I'm going back to Allon meetings. So we have couples councling tonight, then I have see my therapist tomorrow, then DH on thursday, then CA and allon on Sunday nights. It's going to busy and take alot of work. But I'm hopeful we can save our relationhip. DH is also going to stay with his parents for the week. To give us some time apart. But we will be together tonight for the councling. It all seems well and good, but I don't know if this will work or keep going.

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Submitted by Colorado Girl on Tue, 01/08/2008 - 11:35am

Bless your heart for trying to salvage your relationship, but some things are just not acceptable. He verbally and physically is abusing you. Never, ever should you have been treated the way you were, I don't care what the circumstances were.

I think your husband needs some SERIOUS counseling. He's an abuser. I think you should contact your local Domestic Violence center and maybe talk to a counselor there to help you understand how difficult it is for an abuser to stop abusing.

Please take care of yourself and make sure you do what is best for you and your child....

"Life isn't about waiting for the storm to pass...It's about learning to dance in the rain."

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Submitted by goingcrazy on Tue, 01/08/2008 - 11:42am

You are doing a good thing and I am proud of you. Staying at his parents away from him is good. I am not sure if a week is enough, but after speaking to a couselor tonight, you will be steered in the right direction. So long as you and the children involved are safe.

Yes, I agree with Colorado. He is an abuser and it is going to take serious counseling. But if you are chosing to stand by him... so long as it is at a safe distance, then do it. But keep in mind if the counseling and CA and Al Anon are not working, be strng enough to let go.

You deserve a chance at happiness and your baby deserves an emotionally healthy father. Please commend him for wanting to change. That is the first step. And I am a firm believer that people can change and stay changed. I speak from first hand.

Good luck to you both.

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