I'm starting to wonder. SS8 hasn't been to our house the whole summer. the last time we saw him was the first week of July at DH parents house. I've tried calling but BM wont answer her phone. Even the week at DH was off of work and was home he called every day, DH got SS8 for one afternoon and took him to a football game. Ok i get it that DH is rarely home, but I do think it's important to SS and DD spend time together. She's only 16 months. It takes time for a bond to form, and if she never see him I don't think it's going to happen. I got a chance to talk to my cousins this weekend, who also live in blended familys, but they are the "kids" in the family. And they told me that they really feel no connection to their brother who they only see a couple times a month, who is 8 years younger. But feel like siblings to their other brother who is 10 years younger but see all the time. I don't know how to get this across to BM, I think she's doing it on purpose so that they don't bond. Cuz in her mind, we aren't SS family.
Oh to make matters worse, DH and SS lived with DH parents until pretty much I came along. So SS is really close with his grandparents, but they could really care less about DD. They haven't even called the whole summer. Ok I don't really like them. But they are her grandparents. But they will only call to see the grand kids, when SS is here. And I just don't feel right calling them. they are not my parents.
Should I keep trying to call BM or just give it a rest until DH comes back into town at the end of the summer?