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Empty Risks's picture

my friend just called after a follow up with her doc.

oh gawd. F#CK. i can't wrap my arms around this.

she's, uh, man i cant type it. They say she's the "T" word. Stage 4, and they're goal is to prolong her life, that's all, it's going to keep spreading, y'all. they can't stop it. already had another opinion. she waited to tell me until she knew. It's over? Just like THAT? Why?

I'm her sons G*dmother and I just...I don't know.

I'm going to throw up.

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Stepmom_C's picture

I'm so so sorry for your friend. I really don't know what to say other than I'll pray for her (and you). That's so hard and so very young. Sending a cyber hug your way.

Colorado Girl's picture

My dad is losing his battle with prostate cancer too....A big hug from me to you. It will get harder before it gets better, but if she is as strong as you say she is - you at least have that precious gift of time. Sometimes all that there is left to do is to learn how to say goodbye. Sad God Speed.....

"To the ass, or the sow, their own offspring appears the fairest in creation."

JUST ME IN NJ's picture

I had my 2 grandfathers loose their battles to cancer. I know the pain you must be feeling. I also know that there are no magic words which can make the situation better, so I hope the support you find here & with your family & friends can at least help lessen the "blow" of this sad time for you. Make every minute be the treasure it is. I will keep you & your friend in my prayers.

What doesn't kill you, will make you stronger!

happy's picture

Hang in there... We are all here for you.. Try to be comfort to her, cry with her and laugh and make her life as wonderful as you can in this time.. We love you and will continue to pray for you all..

Happy
"live life to its fullest everyday"

everythinghappens4areason's picture

My dad, God bless his soul passed away 10 yrs ago this xmas. He was diagnosed with cancer (it had spread thru all the major organs by the time they discovered it) was given 6 wks to live.

I still think very often of how my dad actually dealt with knowing that he was dying and how soon it would be. My dad and I had some very personal talks during this time, that I cherish to this day. Some of my best memories are from during this time and I hold them close to my heart. We kept dad home, all of us taking turns caring for him (he was only 53) until that last couple of days. When he knew he couldn't stay home any longer, he called us all over to say his goodbye's. He gave mom strict orders that when he went in the hospital for the last time, us kids were not to come visit. He wanted to have some dignity and for us to remember him how he was, not what he had become.

Dad was admitted into the hospital on Dec 24th and passed on the 26th. He made us all promise to celebrate xmas with the our kids the next day, because they were our live's and they shouldn't have to suffer because of his illness. That was dad's last wish and although it was hard, Santa was there the next morning and we celebrated the fact that we had dad in our lives as long as possible.

It is going to be one of your worst experiences in life, but try to put your own hurt aside for now and spend as much time with your friend. You will go on to cherish this time spend as I have with my dad.

Hugs to you...lots of them.
Corie

eviecat's picture

I am so so sorry, I know the shock, the loss, the fear is huge right now. Your in my prayers...please don't stop praying...Tell God everything, your feelings, your fears, your pain. Then find the God given strength to be with your friend and your godchildren.

Best wishes....and huge hugs to you!:(

Anne 8102's picture

I don't know what to say that everyone else hasn't already said. Just know that you're in my thoughts and prayers.

~ Anne ~

"Love, having no geography, knows no boundaries."
(Truman Capote)

not the momma's picture

You need to Pray and believe without a shadow of doubt that he can heal her. My Prayer and thoughts are with you and you best friend and her family.