SD is finding out we are getting married...
I don't even care! I'm so sick of her running my life...I've been engaged for a year and I wanted everything to be ok before we got married and I'm sick of it. Her father will never make her behave, she will alway be stuck up and mean to the rest of us. This weekend I am telling her, she can snap out of it and be part of our family or don't whatever she would like to do but I am finished with her behavior...I am not walking away when she mouths off at her father, is mean to the boys, screams at everyone when she doesn't get her way....her "reign" of terror is over!!!! Wish me luck ladies, I hope i can actually stand my ground and take back my house. I am so excited about the wedding and i hope she doesn't ruin it...
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get married !!
You go girl.....my mother-in-law recently told me to "take control" of my household...she knew her son wouldn't/doesn't, so....I have an SD that sound just like yours....you love your husband-to-be???? don't walk away, that makes her a winner of the chaos she creates..we've been married a year and my SD's reign isn't over yet, but it gets nearer and nearer all the time..
Have a wonderful wedding!!!!!!
Thank you,
It took me a long time to realize that i deserve to me happy, and I am going to be!! SD will learn that her misery is only hurting herself eventually???
SD Hell
Been there done it. Mine is finally out of the house @ 24. We were close until puberty hit and I think the BM's influence on her was going into effect. I also got fed up and called garbage on her drama queen behavior. I felt like I was walking through a mine field in my own home. Thank God it is over. I wish we could've remained close but she chose to do battle with me and she lost out. I could've been a good friend to her and a positive influence.
You GO Struggling - you have a right to a peaceful and positive home and a beautiful wedding!
love your confidence woman!
love your confidence woman! keep it up. show em who's the boss! congratulations on your marriage. be happy!
-happy mom
I agree! Have a SD that
I agree! Have a SD that plays her dad. It doesn't work with me. I hope the best for you! You deserve to be happy and to have a great wedding. Never let anyone else between you and your soon to be husband. Best wishes!!!
I can't believe....
you keep it secret for a year!!!!! Sorry but that's not right. You have every right to jump up and down and scream it from the roof tops if you want.
I just got engaged 6 days ago. 2 of the 4 girls knew that we were thinking about it. Thank God they are fine with it.
This is your time. Please don't let ANYONE rain on your parade.
MARCH ON. Let's us know how it went. Congrats. Jo
UPDATE...
Just so you all know we have been engaged for over a year and SD has known we plan to marry, and she has been impossible since we got engaged. When I showed her my ring she said "I would be upset, but I know its a joke" She told her father he was NOT to take me anywhere ...things like that and I felt he should get control of everything before we get married but I got tired of waiting she is worse then ever! I worked really hard to stay one step ahead of her all weekend and to make sure my BF was not left to get manulipulated! I made it very clear as to our plans all weekend, what we were doing, where we were going, etc so that she didn't make any of the decisions. The biggest problem I have with her is her need to tell everyone when to leave the house, what to do, what time, etc. She must have stompped up and down the stairs 15 times in 2 days. I definitely realized I was sooooo right about the level of her attitude this weekend when I (for the first time every) took my house back from her! I made her go to church with us (which mean't she had to get out of bed before 10am. Sat she stayed in bed until 1pm! I told her under NO circumstances was she to bring her cell phone to church again after I caught her texting in the middle of the service! She started arguing with me! I told her there was nothing in any of our lives that would not wait an hour. She was just fuming! Well, I guess she is going to have to get used to it. I am not doing anything to her, I am not being mean, I am treating her like a child.
Anyways, the wedding is April 14th!! I have a dress....so excited...
I know you are excited about
I know you are excited about getting married -- but be careful. I married a wonderful man who has three children. The middle child is his absolute favorite. She is never disciplined for anything. She broke the 4 or 5 rules I had for her everyday because she knew it bugged me and that her father would do nothing about it. She was 8 at the time now she is 16. I have spent 8 years with her dad and nothing has changed. He gets mad at me when I am mad at her. The only house rules I have are no eating in the living room, do not lean back in the kitchen chairs, no throwing things in the upstairs, and leave the thermostat alone. This weekend I caught her eating in the living room 5 times, leaning back in the chair -- would tell her to put the chair on the floor and two minutes later she would be doing it again. Turned the thermostat to 80, I turned it off, turned it back up to 80 the moment we went outside and no one noticed until we were all sweating in the middle of the night. I don't want to ruin your wedding but this child has ruined my marriage and nothing will ever change. I get upset how she disrespects me and I take it out on my husband because she can do no wrong in his eyes. I have always felt like I was in direct competition with her. Just be really sure that this is the best thing for you to do. I spent eight years putting all my money into my husbands assets and will probably end up walking away without a thing. Would hate to see anyone go through what I have went through.
HOLD YOUR GROUND!!
And maybe one day you can change your name to Successful StepMOM instead of Struggling...
You are doing the right thing and need to get a handle (at least a start) on it now before you walk down that isle! Good LUCK and keep us posted on the wedding!
You be happy.
No matter what. I'm so sorry SD is being such a brat. Absolutely Hold your ground.
So happy you set a date. & what does the dress look like.
Going away with his child to get married
I am really new here today in fact. But I have a couple of questions and really need some advice. I have a really bad habit of keeping everything I am thinking or going through inside way too long. Anyway my question-We decided to take a cruise and get married, I am not really into the big wedding thing, actually scares the poo out of me, so he asked and I said yes, and we had agreed nothing big yadda yadda yadda. He has a daughter with another woman, who he despises, me well I just do not trust her, she is a bit devious, but to say I dislike her, well I never knew her. I could give examples if necessary but for this I will leave it alone. His daughter knows we are going on a cruise and knew that it is going to be adults. She now has begun to ask her father questions about where she is going to be, and so he says to me last night we have to talk to her. What do I say? How do I handle this? Frankie is a nice girl, most of the time, she is however her mothers daughter, she is also a bit devious. I am not sure what to think, we get along, but I am not really sure how to approach this whole situation at times.