My Husband and I have been together for six years. He has a son that he shares custody of with his ex. I have no children of my own and we have no children together, that is why my ss means the world to me.

The problem I have with the ex is that she always wants control of everything that is going on. She can be nice one day and then the next day you can not even look at her. My husband has limited time with his son and his ex is always wanting him back early or wanting him for the day to do something with her. My husband always agrees because he does not want to cause a problem, she makes him feel guilty and makes him feel like he is no good.

He has in recent times put his foot down and has consistently been short with her and not letting her control the conversation, but the new problem is that she will say that he had already agreed to something and that he just does not remember. He does have a hard time remembering their conversations and forgets many times to tell me things that are going on. I am making plans for us to do things and all along the plans will never take place because someone forgot to tell me. I have tried so many things to try to get him to remember, but the ex always says they talked and my husband always says he does not remember.

My husband worked at a steel mill when he and his ex were married, he quit college so that she could finish when their son was born. He worked 7 days a week for a year while she worked and went to school. She always treated him like he was nothing more than a paycheck and that her career was the most important. He was just a
mill rat to her!!! Well since we have been married, he has gone to school to open his own home inspection business and he is also now a Firefighter. I am so proud of him and I have always told him that he is worth it and that he is too smart to sit back and not do something with his life just because she would never let him. The problem is that she still treats him like he is an unintelligent piece of crap!! The person that he really is, is tender hearted and caring of people and their feelings. He would never say a bad word to her because for his son that would be wrong of him to do. I for one have gotten on the phone with her a few times and told her off for talking to him that way or for trying to control him. Is that wrong?? She is very difficult to deal with even if you are trying to have a calm conversation with her. If you elevate your voice in any way she acts like you have just stuck a knife in her stomach. Everything is always about her!!!

I fortunately do not have to deal with her being at family functions and when we are at baseball games for ss she is so snobby anyway. Then she gets mad because everyone always thinks that I am the MOM because she does not talk to anyone and I am very friendly. My husbands family hates her and they are too negative about her that it does not help my situation of trying to make nice with her for my ss sake.

I feel like my husband gives in too much and misses out on time with his son because she is so over-powering. She is re-married to someone who has three children, I do not understand her need to control everything and I find myself confronting her all the time and it turns into a 2 hour confrontation that does not get us anywhere.

Someone help..... I feel like I am going crazy.