Would you go?
So mil has Ss12 go to church (sunday school which she pays for and normally takes him to every sunday- this was decided before me and he is close to graduating so I had to detach from this issue early on)
Tomorrow ss12 is meeting with the priest and MIL to discuss said graduation at 9 am.
Mil sent a group text to BM,SF ,DH and I about the meeting.
I work overnight until 8 am(12 hr shift)
In the past month I have kicked MIL out of my house and went to court to establish visitation rights for SS12 when BM decided to tell DH that he wasn't going to see SS12 anymore.
Neither one knows about one anothers
Issues however MIL has a history of favoring BMs.(see my other posts about these issues)
Part of me wants to go just to be in their faces(i have everything with me so I can look(appropriate but) Fabulous! )DH also deserves my support!
But the other part just wants to go home and relax and let DH handle this while I sleep.
What would you do?
I'm not understanding
I'm not understanding "graduation" from Sunday school but if I thought DH needed my support, I'd go. Otherwise if he can handle himself, catch those much needed Zs! Do you want to be there with MIL and BM/ SF?
Ilovedogs I don't know if I
Ilovedogs
I don't know if I want to go.
I have left some things out on purpose about the church(in order to preserve some privacy in case BMs or MIL and friends come trolling).
Mil was not religious then converted out of the blue one day and regards going as a social activity. Since that day she has expected the Skids to go with her to church.(I disagree with all this but it was decided waay long ago ans Ss12 was so close that DH just wants him to finih.I did succeed in keeping ss6 away tho.)
Just for clarification, are
Just for clarification, are you saying that you, the SM, successfully kept SS6 away from the religion that his grandmother actively practices because you disagree with it?
"I did succeed in keeping ss6
"I did succeed in keeping ss6 away tho.)"
:sick: :sick: :sick:
Disneyfan I would love to
Disneyfan
I would love to hear your oppinion about whether you would go.
NOPE, I would not go. You
NOPE, I would not go.
You wouldn't enjoy the event and you hate your MIL.
Disneyfan Thanks for your
Disneyfan
Thanks for your oppinion.
I might just stay at home and sleep.
Yes the event would be much more enjoyable if only ppl I liked were there!
SonofaBrisketmaker What is
SonofaBrisketmaker
What is your oppinion about the situatuon I posted about? I would love to hear it.
Dh and I decided together about SS6 not going to his gmas church( many factors went into that decision ). Gma is welcome to visit ss6 after church.
I disapprove of my MILs atitudes about many things(I have posted some on ST)including religion. She thinks of church like a social club and about religion as a social activity.
Firthermore she os the only one in the family who has this religion why should the skids have HER religion instead of their parents?
I don’t understand how it’s
I don’t understand how it’s your business what religion your MIL and SS practice? Why do you care? And how it’s your business if she sees it as social activity? How people view their religious institution is a very private matter. I can’t imagine my DH passing judgement or trying to control mine and my DDs let alone my mother’s religious practices? So confusing.
I certainly recommend you don’t attend the event if you feel this way.
My opinion is that you should
My opinion is that you should take a step back, let your DH and the skids handle the skids' religion. Also, stop being so judgey about what religion your MIL practices and why. That's a really personal matter of which you maybe don't have a full understandanding. Your overt disapproval might be keeping her from having open, honest discussions about her spiritual journey and what she hopes to share with her grandchildren. In the end, though, it's all between her and G-d and whoever she chooses to journey with her. Stop stressing yourself about it, it's not good for you, and maybe see a therapist to learn new ways to handle your frustration. Ask yourself if planning to use a religious meeting to make people uncomfortable is a healthy choice.
I say do not go. If people
I say do not go. If people that you do not like are going to be there, stay home. No need in you being aggravated.
Cara1128 - I just left a
Cara1128 - I just left a lengthy response on your other post.
First off, what kind of Sunday School is this!? Where one graduates from? Is this like some weird indoctrination level-up for young people? And MIL pays for it?
Secondly, your DH will be just fine without your show of support in his SS12’s “graduation.”
Remind yourself that you recently had to give this overbearing woman the boot out of your house. You even stated how controlling she is. Do not, I repeat DO NOT participate in this woman’s desire to corral everyone together at her whim. Show some strength and conviction and distance yourself from it all.
I'm interested to know what
I'm interested to know what kind of church has you pay for Sunday School. I've never heard of that before. Sunday School is free in all of the churches I've ever been to.
The Catholic church we
The Catholic church we attended charged for CCD. It wasn't a huge amount, but there was definitely a charge. I assumed it was to help cover their costs.
Are you kidding? I have an
Are you kidding?
I have an oppinion about my MIL and about my own life and this bothers YOU? But I am the oppinionated one and off base. Ummm ok...
My DH asked my oppinion and I gave it. My DH made this issue my business 2 years ago.(It is how things should be in a marriage)
You are making a huge issue out of my simple question and you are the one starting the drama.
Step Right Off - CCD is short
Step Right Off - CCD is short for Confraternity of Christian Doctrine. We called it catechism class, and it's basically Catholic religious education for kids who don't go to Catholic school.
If MIL decides to take YOUR
If MIL decides to take YOUR kids to church while you prefer something different, you certainly have a lot to say to that BUT where MIL takes her grandkids who are NOT your children should not concern you. You’ve been only married two years and already so much drama
Thank you all for your
Thank you all for your oppinions!
I did go to the meeting(DH and family, BM and family were all invited via mass text).
Incidentally myself and dh and ss6 were the only ones on time. BM&Co. did not show at all and MIL was late bc she was picking up SS12 to bring him.
We had a good time and set a date for SS to graduate. He will have material to prepare and both parents(DH and BM ) have to prepare their parts also.
All my comments about religion are going to be in my other thread.
Don’t go out of spite. If you
Don’t go out of spite. If you want to go because you 1. Like the kid and 2. Support the choice he is making then go,but you don’t qualify for either of these and in fact, you say you’d only go to throw it in their face so that should tell you all you need to know.
I agree.
I agree.
I did not go out of spite.I
I did not go out of spite.I went bc I was invited along with everybody who is ss12s family.DH wants Ss12 to finish his Sunday school. I am supportive.
To be in their faces looking fabulous after being treated so poorly by both(in other posts). Yeah I did that!( petty yes but who hasn't fantasized about it)
I looked fabulous and behaved like an adult. I am genuinely interested in the steps to graduation and will help SS12 and DH however I can.