Were your children at the reception? Did they have a "home time"?

I don't necessarily think you were wrong - but definitely some messed up stuff going on at that reception!. BM there(?!) - was that your idea or his? Not good to get so chummy with BM. And Dh already telling you that he would choose SS over you - ouch! And now he's being cool on your honeymoon? Red flags are popping up everywhere.

You weren't out of line and holy crap I'd be looking at an annulment right about now....

Welcome to the backseat of your own marriage.

Even if your husband didn't agree with you about his son leaving, he should have been adult enough to see, as a parent and a newlywed, that it really was time for his son to go.

And now he's being an immature jerk on your honeymoon.

Fraud is a valid reason for annulment, you thought you were marrying an adult.

With every relationship there is a period of adjustment where each partner needs to find thier place and work out compromises that make everyone feel welcome. Personally I think it is crazy that your ss's mother was there in the first place and I think that if you were having a party that would be just for adults after a certain time that needed discussing with all parents of children before the party, Given the scenario you described you should have spoken to your husband first and discussed SS staying late before making a decision about what is and is not appropriate for a child that is not yours.

Yes your husband was out of line saying that his son comes first but that is a line all parents are fed and most believe but hopefully as time goes on in your marriage your husband can come to realize that he can put you both first in your respective roles as wife and son. Kids come first in terms of needs and spouses come first in terms of wants.

If I were you on honeymoon right now I would have a conversation with my husband, apologize for talking to BM and SS first without discussing it with my husband first and try to clear the air so that we could get on and enjoy the honeymoon.

Personally my first year of being married was hellish because of my husband already being a father. It took us both time to adjust and to work out how to make things work for both of us. Our honeymoon away from step-life was one of the things that we could relish as having been amazing. Try to get past this current bump and enjoy your honeymoon. There is worse to come yet in your steps experience probably but now is not the time to worry about that. Sometimes to maintain a relationship we have to swallow our pride and admit where we went wrong (whether or not we truly believe it) in order to move past the current blip.

RED FLAGS!

Any bride on honeymoon deserves better than this. Pack your belongings and go home. You've made a big mistake, but its not too late to get your life and self respect back.

You both need to learn how to communicate better and how you are going to work with you being a new wife when he has a kid. Those things are not easy and require effort from both of you and compromise from both of you and perhaps some professional help if you two cannot manage it on your own. Personally I would not let one little misstep end my marriage, I would work at it. But I do know that my husband is as equally committed to making it work and finding solutions and compromises that work for both of us. If it sounds like too much effort or you know your husband is not going to work with you then ending the marriage is an option. If however you want to make it work then treat this as the first of many more tests in your marriage to come as all couples have arguments or miscommunications at times and the successful ones do not let them derail their marriage but learn from them.

PLEASE, PLEASE, PLEASE listen to the advice you are getting here!

Annulment IMMEDIATELY!

I know it's hard but trust me...trust all of us! It gets so much worse and if your husband treats you LIKE THIS!!! on your HONEYMOON!!! Do not listen to him when he promises that it won't be like that.
There is no discussion to be had here! You need to go to the court and annul this today! Do yourself a favor. You will be stuck with this skid and this jerk treating you like a maid for many miserable years until you finally divorce him.

Find a man without kids! But at minimum, annul this right now!

Oh no that is awful of your new hubby to say on your wedding day. Ugh. I think u were correct in sending the child home at that hour. Not sure why you would have invited the birth mother. Was that your husbands idea??? I am a firm believer in placing spouse or partner before all others. Even the kids, after their basic needs are met of course. If a married couple does not place each other at the center of their lives the kids will suffer when the relationship ends. I honestly don't know if I would be able to stay married to someone who treated me the way u were treated. It is not to much to ask to enjoy your new husband at your wedding. Ouch. I feel bad for u.

U will play second fiddle to the ex and kids is what this sounds like. U r in for a long ride. Best of luck. I think u were in line and your husband needs a reality check.

You should have thanked the hosts. Headed home, rekeyed the locks, and left a note on the door for your STBXH to move back in with his baby mama since he is not man enough to be worthy of you as his wife. Who tolerates their XW at their wedding?

Write this useless waste of abject parental failure of a prick off and find a partner worthy of you.

There is only one top priority in a marriage and that is the marriage and the spouse combined. Kids are the top marrital responsibility but never do they trump the spouse or marriage as a priority.

Good riddance to that waste of skin.

My condolences on the demise of your young marriage and on your poor choice for an equity life partner.