thrown back in my face
never try to do something nice for a spoiled brat. it will get thrown back in your face
two of my adult skids are daughters. one of them has a very foul negative attitude to almost everything.
one time she admired a jacket that i bought on sale. she raved about it, so i bought one in her size and surprised her with it. she happily accepted it.
the other nite we were dining out and her sister made a comment about the girls huge feet. when she wears flip flops her feet look like Donald duck in snow shoes. the girl came back with a violent outburst of defence to her sister.
i felt truly bad for the girl. after all bm left their father when they were still in nappies to marry her lover, who was also married. (bm was home wrecker.)
me and bm decided to take the girl to a hi end department store and shop for some very nice and expensive designer shoes. i even bought a pair that i did not need to make her feel comfortable about the shopping. all the while she complained about the styles of shoes. heel too high, wrong color. hated the material. etc. she ended up deciding on one pair that we bought.
the next day the girl called her father to tell him about how laughable it was for us all to go shopping for her shoes. she could not even appreciate the gesture or even recognise it.
so much for trying to do something nice for a sd. she works as a waitress with a degree in hospitality and does not make a lot of money. i would have sworn she would be delighted.
oh and she did not have a problem graciously accepting the five hundred dollars of sporting goods her father bought for her last year.
needless to say i will not be offering up to buy anything else for her.
oh i meant me and dh NOT bm!
oh i meant me and dh NOT bm!
No good deed goes unpunished
No good deed goes unpunished - especially when it comes to skids. Unless it is truly appreciated - don't bother - save your money.
What a lovely gesture. Time
What a lovely gesture. Time to close your wallet and do nice things for those that appreciate it.
the truly laughable part is
the truly laughable part is that she walked away with a pair of shoes.
all that crabbiness and she still did not turn up her nose over a pair of shoes.
i have a mind to tell her to give them to me so that i can return them. ungrateful little brat.
this is what i expect from a sweet sixteen diva not a young working woman well in her twenties.
i have learned my lesson.
Yeh I would agree with this.
Yeh I would agree with this. You think it is laughable for us to go shopping for shoes with you? Great we will laugh all the way back to the store to get our money back !
Sometimes it situations like
Sometimes it situations like that, that call for the ball to be put back in there Cory. By this I mean, directly ask them why they would wish to make you feel bad about a good deed for them? Tell them hire that made you feel to be unappreciated. People need tools to learn the right behaviors from. Be the better person. Teach them with feelings.
for a younger child, maybe
for a younger child, maybe this would have been a lesson to teach.
at 26 the sd is a young woman and not a teenager. she knows exactly what she has done and for what idiotic, selfish reasons. nothing i say or her father says will make a difference. she will just pout all the more. any person who complains about a good deed and calls it laughable, and then profits from that good deed (keeping the designer shoes) has a problem that i am not about to fix.
she is choosing to wallow in her pool of self-made misery. even her father said not to get anything for her anymore.
all the more a pity. i used buy her hair salon product where i get my hair done. things like shampoo, conditioner and styling spray.
no more. hell no.
it just so happens this sd
it just so happens this sd was her mothers favourite and the apple of her eye. she was spoiled growing up while he sister was made to do all the house work. this little princess was to sit around watching tv while her sister did laundry and cleaned the house.
AMEN TO THIS: "Unless it is
AMEN TO THIS: "Unless it is truly appreciated - don't bother - save your money."
I would buy EVERYTHING, and I mean everything (SD is now 9). Until I realized I was pissing away all my money that could have gone to my two BS and grandson. Never again. Ungrateful, spiteful, totally doesn't even care about the fact a person works hard for the cash. If she wants anything, I tell her to go to her father. I'm done. If I would have seen a glimmer of thankfulness it would be different but there is none. Entitlement attitudes start at a very young age and it is sad parents encourage this behavior in their children. My two sons never growing up would even ask for anything for Christmas. They were happy with what they received, and still to this day (they are adults), I'll say what would you like for X-mas, bday, etc. and they have no list, no item by item checklist of what they want. I am amazed at children today who are me/me/me give me, I want, I want I want. That is my SD. This bank is closed