}:) Hi there
SD lies all the time and is starting to cause such a rift in my marriage. My husband seems to only ever see that she is just a baby because she calls him daddy non stop ,screams at the top of her lungs for her daddy 7-8 times in a minute coupled with the baby voice, I can look vindictive. However I am just wanting her to be honest. But her lack of honesty and lying is really making me feel like leaving him and telling her if she had any respect for her dad she would be more polite to him (in demanding attention etc) and not act like she is a baby and didn't do something.
Her lying had started around 5-6 years old with regular little girl stuff. But now it has progressed to (I didn't go on the laptop of your work and break it-whilst she was on their playing games) to now lying about having multiple social media accounts like 4 on one alone. Also listing that she is a singer and single?! What the hell do I do with a 11year old that is constantly defiant and also lying . she is allowed by BM to have these accounts and Facebook and YouTube vlogging which she also posts pictures and or videos of my house and or talks about me and her father . it really bugs me because we have had the conversation over and over again with her about self respect, respect for other people but she honestly just baby talks out of it. If she were my bio child I would not take such lies at all . she would not even be on social media at this age.
She has a super easy life at our house no chores, endless supply of healthy food and snacks , clean beautiful home, etc . I just wish she wouldn't lie and act like a baby but then be taking selfies and advertising her being single . the mother is crazy wreck hates her own daughter and tries to make our lives as miserable as she can . but her mothers shitty attitude towards food , health, driving, lifestyle, water usage ,is endlessly rubbing off on her as well. I don't feel like I can be comfortable in my own house not my husband as she constantly judges all we do or eat, or even driving speeds. I get really annoyed because she has no idea how lucky she has to have her dad who actually spends quality time with her and a step mother that actually cares which says a lot more than my husband or I have ever had. This last summer her mother did something very bad to cause trouble for us and SD was a large part of it. Step daughter has no idea how she has turned her dads life upside down for the worst. Because we don't tell her how her mother has manipulated her and ripped apart his relationship s with his own family.
Really sick of it. I always tried to be the best most inviting step mom but now I find myself enraged and dreading each visit. I feel like a prisoner in my own home.
She has no respect for anyone except her mom and face value respect for her dad. It really pisses me off. Her mother has poisoned her even BM own mother thinks she's nuts !? She has threatened everything under the sun. Has been violently abusive to all partners and has gotten so much money out of my husband and his family she didn't work after her birth for six years, even now she works part time in the summer and spring only from home!!! And in the meantime has poisoned already damaged relationships between my husbands mom and step dad to the point of no return. Honestly don't know what to do I hate being in the middle or saying anything to SD or BM but really ready to snap over her lack of good parenting and my husband's terrified attitude of her starting more court battles which all she has lost. Long rant but much needed as I can never vent my frustrations with anyone that can really understand the frustrating step parent scenario.