Crap met the fan!
I spoke to my sister last night, she called me to talk about her job and then the conversation shifted to my niece, she told me that the cops were at the school Friday, since her ex showed up to pick up kid and she refused to let him. Cops would not force her to send her child since it was a civil matter but they did tell her that she needs to go to court if she wants the court order changed. Sister said she cried and "acted cute" then went on her way!
Well, that teared it for me! I told her that it is not "cute" to fuck up her daughter's life and relationship with her dad! I told her it is not cute how my skids acts and it is all because of their mother and the great lengths she goes to to keep my DH away from them. I told her her kid must be so embarrassed to have her parents fighting in the school and my niece standing in the middle crying and how shameful the police had to go out there. I told her she is a great person but is an absolute failure as a parent and if she wants to continue to fail her daughter I will hear nothing more about it. Do not tell me about it, ask for advice, vent, rant etc, to me! I am the wrong one! DH is the wrong one too. We are fed up with her and this is too toxic for us to touch. My sister told me I am being cruel, too personal about BM2, I don't "get it". She threw a huge tantrum basically and told me how I "am", nice!
She stated she is now cutting off me and dd and DH. I doubt that will last. But for now I am ok with it actually. She is my best friend, but we have enough toxic BM2 we can not handle another one! I am still working on improving myself and my marriage, dont need this now!
My mother then called me freaking out about how upset my sister is that I am not sticking up for her, standing by her etc. My mom is an emotional cripple basiclly and leans on my sister and I for everything. She has no one else. She has never dated anyone. She has no living relatives besides us. My mother is heartbroken that the family is ruined, I am being judgemental and mean, my DH is making me act like this, I am being told what to do by him etc. My sister is also some kind of emotional cripple herself. I feel so bad for my niece! She was in terrible health a few years ago and almost died, I know she means the world to BOTH of her parents! They BOTH want to be with her and raise her. This is terrible. I am not going to reach out to her ex anytime soon as I think it is best to let things settle emotionally for a minute. Bottom line my mom and my sister are not talking to me.
She has some random friends
She has some random friends in her town, but I am pretty sure they are just people that hang out at her job. My mother is her doormat, my niece is the princess that is the focus of her life. She thinks she needs a man all the time too, if they won't "step up" and enable her she will just find another one. She is selfish and a good acctress! She has it very easy to get her way with others because she is very pretty and tiny, no one wants to see her crying. I don't know what she will do now with out me to cry to. Probably just beat my mom down and continue to use her as her flying monkey. I just can't tell her she is doing good, she is wrong! Its a terrible thing and I live the other side of it everyday with my DH. I can't go there!
My sister has told me that
My sister has told me that "she is done with me" because I am honest about what her drinking is doing to my niece. Okay, well, "Bye."
Of course, she is only done with me until she needs me again.
Sometimes, family sucks.
I know how BM's twist things
I know how BM's twist things and tell only their sides and get people to justify them and stand by them when they are full of shit and doing terrible things and I won't do that any longer! My mom can kiss her ass now I will not. I have not heard from either one and I am not too bothered by it. I am working in the evenings and keeping myself busy and stress free from their crap. Feels good!