:sick: Let me start by saying, sorry this is gonna be a long one!
Thank God I found this site! For two years now I've felt like there was something terribly wrong with me. I can not stand my sd's! I started out on this journey with rose colored glasses. About 4 months in, they shattered!
I met my dh at a very low point of my life, my little brother had just died, my 9yr, abusive relationship had ended, and I was unsure of my next move.
I was out to dinner with a girlfriend when the most handsome man walked up and started talking to me. He invited me to his lake house, and the rest is history.
The first thing out of my mouth was "I have kids" his reply was "I love kids, I have two girls"
In the beginning, we would alternate weekends, one with his kids, the next with mine. All was well in my world, so we introduced the kids. They got along great! So we decided to move in together. And that's when the shit hit the fan!
Bm found out about me, up until that point she was clueless. And the sd's started acting different. The once sweet, polite little girls, turned into demon children!
The weekend we moved into our new place, sd8 insisted on riding with me. I thought it sweet, boy was I wrong. She asks me "why did you break my mommy and daddy up?" At the time they had been "broken up" a year. She then decides to tell me "my daddy hits my mommy all the time" (lie) in two years he has not even raised his voice to me! She just went on and on, until I turned up the radio to drown her out. When I got to my new home I was visibly upset, shaking and crying. Dh asked what was the matter, so I asked him if any of what she had said was true. He told me it was not, then lit her little butt for lying and upsetting me.
As we were moving furniture into the house, she stood by the door, my kids helped bring things in, and pointed out every single piece of furniture that was from "our old house with mommy" by the time everything was inside, I was livid! Side note, all of it has since been replaced, lol. We moved in, in October, the following summer, during a visit, we decided to take the kids on a nature walk. I'm very outdoorsy, bm is a fat, lazy slob. While walking sd8 did everything she could think of to upset me, "this is stupid" "I'm tired" "I'm thirsty" "daddy,daddy,daddy," until I had, had enough and wanted to leave. My kids didn't make one complaint! They love being outside. Bm keeps sd's inside in front of the t.v all day. Because she is about 250lbs and looks 18 months pregnant with triplets!
I was upset we had to cut our day short, when we arrive home I overhear sd telling dd9 "your mommy is a slut, and she has a bad attitude" I went through the roof! Dh then sits her down to "talk" to her about it. Ugg, if I heard slut come outta my little girls mouth she'd be eating soap!
Then at bedtime I tell sd where to sleep, she looks me right in the eye and says "no, I'm sleeping on the floor", she has a bed! So again dh "talks" to her. As I'm tucking them in she says "I don't love you, that's why I talk to you mean", to which I reply, "kid the feeling is mutual" and leave the room.
The next morning, while dh is in the room of course, it all "I love you,sm" :? She is like jekell and hyde, one person with me alone, and another in front of "daddy". And to this day she still does these things. Hateful to me behind his back, but while he's in the room she's a perfect little angel,(puke). Always asks a million questions, daddy this, daddy that, everywhere he goes, she's right up his butt. She is close to 100lbs and insists on sitting and laying all over him like she's 2. Then her little sister joins in(gag) and its disgusting. Every time he walks into the room, even if he's only been gone a second they jump up and run to him yelling "daddy,daddy I missed you, I love you" yet when they are with us for more than a day, they cry and whine and complain to go back to the foul bm. Where they have no chores, no rules, and they never have to get up off their lazy butts!
The latest thing was during a visit, my dd brought me some photos of myself and dh, we had just had them taken, ripped to shreds. I asked who did this? Of course, sd8 was her reply. When confronted with the evidence she broke down in tears, daddy was in the room, "I didn't mean to it was an accident" how do you "accidentally" rip up several photos? Dh saw through the lie, thank god, and she was punished. Most of the time though, he can't or won't admit his little princess is a big fat liar! Even though his ex-mil has warned both of us that just about everything that comes out of both sd's mouths is a lie. They are learning from the worlds best liar, bm. Her own mother has told me, "if she wasn't my daughter, I'd hate her and have nothing to do with her" very sad.
Sorry, I could go on forever. Just needed to get some of it out!