I was on this site daily for a week, and decided to join, finally. I have six biokids, ds17, ds15, dd13, dd10, dd9, and ds7. I also have two sd's 8 and 5. My fiance and I have been together for two years and although we have had our fair share of difficulties concerning the kiddies, our relationship is pretty solid. Four months into it we lost his grandmother, who raised him. Then three weeks later, his mother who was on dialysis and very ill passed away also.
For years I was in a VERY abusive relationship, I am forever physically disabled due to my younger kids biodad daily abuse. My kids were treated like crap and now that they have a REAL Man around they love him to death!
My sd's on the other hand couldn't care less about me. They act like perfect angels when daddy is around. But, when so is at work or in the other room they say the meanest things to me. Sd8 actually called me a slut! And said I had a "bad attitude" when I got upset about it! When I told her dad she totally denied it, and he believed her!
Before bm knew so and I were together the girls were so sweet and cuddly. But, after bm found out, they totally changed. Sd8 actually told me bm tells her to call me names, make messes in my house, break my things, and not to listen to me!
When so and I moved in together, sd8 was riding in the car with me to go pick my things up, she asked me why I broke her mommy and daddy up! They had been "broke up" almost a year at that point! I know bm is pumping those girls heads full of crap!
So, I guess my burning question is, how do I handle all the lies bm is pumping into her kids heads, without me looking like the bad guy??