I thought, dreamt, of having a “normal” family finally. A family where I would have skids and they would also be my friend. Where I can take them shopping, etc, and they would be good and help around the house.

I was delusional as hell about all of it.
I first met them the summer before last when their dad took them to an outdoor rock concert. At the time, they were 16 (SD) and 14(SS)at the time. They are now 18 and 16. I didn’t see the extreme behaviors of these kids, and its due to bad parenting, just keeping it real.
But then, their mother committed suicide.
Oh don’t feel sorry for the skag, the burned their house down with her in it, and I swear, when he saw her car and decided to come to my house and spend the night with his two teens, I think she would had taken them all out with her – she has threatened to burn the house down and kill them on numerous occasions prior. Anyway after the bitch died, the kids were at my house – and man, they got on my nerves from DAY ONE. For instance, they’re idiots. Even their dad referred them as such, and I clearly see why. One good thing out of that is I don’t have to deal with the crazy ex, and two, I’m mad that that bitch killed herself because she cant take these rotten assholes on the weekend.
Only one lives with us, the son. He is stinky (I have to keep his door shut because the stink of his body encompasses the whole house) he’s sneaky, doesn’t listen to house rules or follows them most of the time. He is a high functioning aspersers kid that clearly knows what he is doing. Buying and sneaking marijuana and smoking it in the house, had some “friends” over that were clearly using him, and then ended up robbing me by taking all of my credit cards. Besides being stupid, school has started back in August and he has already missed over 10 days, and its just December. Eats every 10 minutes and there was a time he thought I was cooking just for him because he didn’t have sense enough or cared, that maybe there are other people in the house I cooked for also.
the daughter, well she is a manipulative whore, like her mother. She convinced her mother, pre-burnt, to have her homeless, no job, no high school graduate BF to live with them or else – they AGREED to it. She was 17, him 19. I have had to get into the kids ass because their father sure wont, and it seems when I did, it was okay, its just that he resents me and gets mad because I don’t like his kids. Well, I don’t, and for good reason.
Husband knows I cannot stand the daughter, so he put her and her BF in an apartment, paid their rent, utilities, and even bought her a brand new car, cash! Anyway, this whore liked making unnecessary racial comments, in turn I had to “check her” and put her back in her place – she would say things such as “someone told me to smell a black person’s hair” and she picked my daughter up and smelled her hair or she would see my hairdryer, a stand up mobile one you would see in a hair salon, and she would comment that “is this a black person’s hair dryer”. Twice she was watching a movie and was saying “Nigga this, nigga that” I let it slide the first time, because her mother just died. The second time, well, I let her know you do not speak in my house like that with my 7 year old – and that ended that.
From my observation, kids would be up all hours of the night, swearing more than I do, eating all the damn food, being loud, including school nights, throw trash and shit on the floor as if they live on the streets, would go through a 12 can pack of pop within 4 hours, I swear, etc. Their presence and voices alone make me cringe. I hide out when the daughter comes around like to pick up her brother for something. I call him the stinky, nasty human garbage disposal.
I hate these kids; they don’t follow rules, do anything but eat, sleep and shit and just are unappreciative of all of what their father does. But, I am mad at him also for him and that dead burnt ex for raising these kids without boundaries and now I have to be a part of these animals.

I truly, tried liking these kids, but they are nasty, lazy, disrespectful and annoying and I will never bond with them. I strongly dislike these kids. I don’t even want to call them stepkids. They mean nothing to me.