I get nothing from this relationship anymore, absolutely nothing
We have ss every weekend. Dh lives for this time and as a result has never encouraged ss to make any friends in our area. Therefore he is permanently glued to Dhs side from sat morning until Sunday night. Dh never does anything to show me he loves me anymore. We spend out life sat on the couch. Two weeks ago we had ss on Friday so had sat night and Sunday to ourselves. I told him I wanted a date day yet he went to bed at 10 on the Saturday night and spent all of the Sunday lying on the couch watching tv. Last weekend was ss12 birthday so I didn't mind the weekend. Then yesterday (Saturday) dh has errands to run. Doesn't get home until 4 with ss in tow so effectively I've spent all of Saturday on my own. We watch a kids movie and are all in bed at 10 when ss goes to bed.
This morning we have breakfast, I'm quiet because I am feeling so utterly dissatisfied with my life. He has a shower and I go to get in after he's finished. He turns to me and says "were taking fil to so and so place do u want to come?". Great again making plans without speaking to me about it - dh is great at that. I say in a sarcastic voice "no I'll just spend another day on my own in the house". I get showered and I come out. Dh turns to me and says "don't even bother coming - you're in a mood you'll just ruin the day for everyone".
I'm sick of pretending these people are my family. They're not. My family lives 3 hours away. He is controlling and obnoxious knowing his family are all in close vicinity. I'm so disgusted at him. I really feel as if I get nothing from this relationship anymore. I'm only turning 30 too young to be in a relationship like this. With a man like this.
Sue nailed it. Great advice.
Sue nailed it. Great advice.
Go out with a girl friend !!!
Go out with a girl friend !!! Start occupying your time without him.
That's the thing I would have
That's the thing I would have organised my own plans had I have known he would have walked off and left me in the house alone yet again. And I just want my husband to be who he used to be, want to spend time with me. That is all I ask. I work hard during he week usually out of the house 13 hour days and I feel I am just invisible , treated like crap at the weekends because dh has ss here . All I am handy for is having sex. That is it. It's sd but it's how I feel. Dh does not give me anything emotionally any more. Nada. Zilch.
I remember you, you are the
I remember you, you are the poster with the DH who lusts after Jodie Marsh on his phone screen.
This guy is not trainable.
He has either fallen out of love with you or, which I suspect is the more likely, he disrespects all women and cannot behave romantically.
This situation has been going on as reported to ST for a long time now. He won't change. YOu therefore have to change something. I highly recommend you get counseling to look at why you are putting up with such horrible rejection from this apparently unattractive man.
Yes this is me. Actually I
Yes this is me. Actually I confronted him on that and he deleted the tweets to her . Really stupid things. Then believe it or not we were having breakfast with ss this morning and I ask him for a section of the paper. He opens it and says "oh Jodie marsh". I say don't do that it's disrespectful. And he makes a comment as if I'm a jealous crazy fruit loop for feeling that way.
He is also the man that when
He is also the man that when I spoke to Hun how I wanted a divorce a few weeks ago he started tagging this random girl on FB and liking her slutty selfies while we were still living under the same roof. I sometimes think he is so pathetic.
He has showed you who he is.
He has showed you who he is. If you stay and spend your life whining about it, you will be the one who is pathetic. So, don't stay and make your life the very best it can be.
I get this. As a full time
I get this. As a full time SM, every one of my weekends is consumed by problems or drama of SD. There is no time to be a married couple. I would really hate it if my SD was gone all week then glued to my DH all weekend. I feel ya!
My family lives 40 mins away
My family lives 40 mins away and his family lives 5 mins away, so I can relate there! We are always doing things with his family and I love them but sometimes they can be a little overbearing and act like parents to the skids.
This does sound like a really bad situation.. I'm not there, so I don't know for sure, but there seems to be a lot of issues you need to talk out. Have you tried talking to him, telling him everything you feel? What you neeed from him in order for this to work?
#1 question. Deep down, do you still love him?
Very scary to admit this
Very scary to admit this right now but I'm beginning to think I don't. I'm beginning to feel indifferent to him which I know is a bad thing. He used to make it worth while to stick around his baggage but the more he's dragging his heels with even talking about a baby with me the more I don't think so. Two BMs at my age is a lot to deal with. Also he's used to having his son on his own for 11 years and he's definitely controlling in terms of how he is with his son (I don't lift a finger) I know most women on this would love this but I feel it just furthers the divide between me and them. I don't think he'd be able to even co parent with me sometimes, he likes things done his way and that's a fact and that's why he loves the way it is now in iur house because it is very much me against them, I don't fit in, that's why it was so easy for him just to leave with ss without even saying goodbye today and leaving me in the house.
It sounds like he has some
It sounds like he has some problems with you too. If he's okay with leaving you out of activities, he may not want to be around you because of problems with you. You two need to talk big time. and you shouldn't be having sex with him until this shit is addressed.
I've definitely decreased our sexy time! We're down to 1-2 times per week if he's lucky. and only if he's been a good boy. It's positive reinforcement. I'll thank him for helping so much with the kids at the end of the day, or whatever and give him a reward that im not interested in doing at the end of the night. Im just not feeling it lately.
I don't think he cares for me
I don't think he cares for me all that much which in turn makes me think what's the point and I disengage from him and leave him to dote all over to ss which makes me repulsed, isolated and angry . It's a vicous cycle.