Urgh !! How did you handle Adult photos of Skids?
Urghh!! This may seem petty, but I can't be the only one who hates the thought of nasty skid photos being put up?
Seriously, the last barely cute photos of ass1 and ass 2 were when they were very small. When I met DH he only had a few school type photos of them up and even then he didn't seem that fussed.
We have moved at least four times in the last decade, so displaying photos isn't very high on my list of things to do. Yet recently I have been sorting out my office/ studio which DH now wants to 'share', which I don't mind but I'm planning on displaying some of my photos, NOT family,etc, more nature and architecture. This had DH thinking about a big "us" wall of photos, and I knew where this was going..... he said it MIGHT be nice to put up some good skid photos !!!
I really don't want them anywhere where I would see them, is that really mean? The skids have never been involved with this last house, and I really spent enough time in the past getting rid of their shrines in previous homes. Is it a guilty Dad thing?
Do you still have nasty OLD photos of the skids up?
Does sharing the office space
Does sharing the office space mean sharing the same desk? If not, let him display small framed ones on his desk. Explain the nature/scenic theme on walls that you're going for and how the 'us' wall would knock the décor...don't go into the fact you don't want an us wall as you don't want to display pictures of skids.
If he won't go for the discreet desk shots, or won't be having his own desk, then buy him a nice photo album. He can put all the 'us' in there he pleases.
My parents do small framed
My parents do small framed pics of the adult kids in the guest rooms in their house. One bedroom has my wedding pics and my little brothers wedding pics, one bedroom has G-kid pics, one has vintage ancestor pics. Small pics are on a collage board on the door between the kitchen and laundry room. In more public areas of the house the walls, shelf, and table top spaces are reserved for art work.
We do the same. Small pics in table top frames. No kid pics on the walls, anywhere. If people are interested they can look, pick them up, ask questions but if they are not interested they are not assaulted by billboard sized family pics plastered all over the walls.
It is two desks together for
It is two desks together for extra workspace. No way any skid photos are going in there, I have to work in there!!! :sick:
Talking about that area led DH to "think" about "maybe" skid photos somewhere else I guess in the house...... We are already buying art together which he is really enjoying, so I think he may " calm" down and forget again. I was just wondering how others handled this.
Lol at the GayLord Walls
Lol at the GayLord Walls comment !! Please tell me if you've faced one of these!! I've de- shrined already in the past, not going there again!
Yup...my DH tries
Yup...my DH tries periodically to put up the wall of Gaylord. Drives me nuts. But my DH has issues with pictures. lol
When we married and moved in together, I told him that ONE picture of a person was all that would go up in the living area AND it could ONLT be a 5x7. He did not like it but I was adamant about that.
SS keeps sending up pictures of himself. They are of course 11x18s. So DH keeps putting them in the game room. And I take one down after a few months and he has not noticed yet. lol. I am down to only having 3 pictures of SS in there. And those will be down within the next year if SS will just stop sending them!! arrrgg.
You sound like my dh. We've
You sound like my dh. We've had this argument dh more than once. I have 4 beautiful daughters whom I love to display, but dh was a single father who has 3 adult sons whom all are drug addicts (except SS31 who has now been clean/sober for 2 years), but none of their pictures I would want to display. YUCK Unfortunately, dh feels the same about my daughters (jealousy on HIS part, I think). I have a beautiful 8 X 10 of my DD28 and her fiance on the floor by MY side of the bed since dh won't allow it in our family room. He said, "THIS is a second marriage and all has to be equal." hmmm...his sons...drug addicts (aka money pits) and MY daughters...college educated women with jobs who ask for nothing. Equal...I think not.
If you have to share office space, I'd tell him when he's working in there, display HIS pictures. When you're in there, display your own. Just put them away when you're done.
Our main hallway has a family
Our main hallway has a family photo of DH, DD18 and me, then one of SS and his (then)wife, and one of SD and her kid. That's the only place that has equal representation.
The home office/studio/ craft
The home office/studio/ craft room will be mostly mine, DH can organize something if he wants for his office at work, hell he could cover his desk at work with picture frames of skids but he never has ......
He did print off some photos from ass1's college graduation over a year ago, but I did warn him they had not turned out well. Photoshopping can only do so much, and well ass1 looked appalling on the day ( not being nasty because she has become very overweight, but she wore a creased, greasy dress and looked appalling) Hell, even over three years ago she was wearing tiny dresses four sizes too small with the boobs hanging out, not wanting those lovely images on my walls :jawdrop:
So I can understand other people not wanting nasty photos up.
LOL! It's funny you should
LOL! It's funny you should post this...
My SD23 just got married, and some relative on the groom's side made these.... plates. They are ceramic plates with a picture of the bride and groom "glazed" on or however they do that. Do you know what I mean? (Not sure I'm explaining this at all well!) Anyway, we were given one. We have 3 small children together, so breakables don't fare well in common areas. DH has put this plate in our bedroom. On my wardrobe. Where I see it pretty much every day first thing in the morning and last thing at night. I find it vaguely horrifying, to be honest, to see them smiling down at me in bed!
Fortunately for my DH (and my marriage) I'm usually willing to be more amused by this stuff than annoyed. So the plate stays, for now. Eventually I'll "put it away until the babies are older".
he said it MIGHT be nice to
he said it MIGHT be nice to put up some good skid photos
My response would be, "While that might be nice, it is not happening."
I do not decorate with family photos so skid photos are not an option. The peg board in the garage is okay, but that's it.
I have a picture dispute at
I have a picture dispute at my house also. I don't have any photos on the walls, but just some 5x7s in beautiful frames on the living room fireplace mantle.
It has pictures of the grandchildren of our blended family and one of DH and my wedding. I used to have my own kid's weddings and graduations there too until I heard from DH that SD34 has noticed that there aren't any of her or her brother on the mantle and she was bothered by that and mentioned it to him.
So, I put my own kids on my desk in the den. DH is free to do the same on his desk, but has not done so.
The only decorating item I have allowed to be up in my home from his first marriage, is a wall clock, and I only allow it in the office, behind the door, and above the dog bed, lol. DH is the only one that can see it from his office chair at that angle. (and I'm thinking I'll take it down as well). It's always slow. It should stay in the past and not be displayed, but would make a nice garage sale item. I feel kind of irritated whenever I look at it.
Years ago we were presented
Years ago we were presented with a very BIG photo of SD and her hubby, along with a photo frame of small pictures when SD was a small child. Of course, we had to frame the large picture. At first they were placed on the wall so that they were visible. As SD's behavior got worse, they were moved to more inconspicuous locations in the house, eventually winding up behind a door that was never closed. Then one year they 'disappeared' when we put up Christmas decorations, never to be 'found' again. The thing I noticed was that DH and I had given SD pictures of us which were never displayed in her home. I presume this was to avoid problems with the BM, but it helped me realize I have no obligation to display SD's photos either. I'd rather put up pictures of the dogs.
I can totally relate! DH and
I can totally relate! DH and I have been in all of the golden eggs's houses and there is not ONE picture of DH and/or DH and me! Why should I feel obligated to post their shit in my house?
I solved this problem a couple years ago. DH used up every damn wall space in every room of the house of the golden eggs from birth to present. Then I asked him "Where am I going to put pictures of MY kids?" Problem solved! He took alot of them down and his kids are on one wall and mine are on the opposite wall. He asked "why is this?" And I said simple - we will never be a family united so why should the pictures be united?
Again, problem solved!
We used to have dozens of
We used to have dozens of pictures of skids on display throughout the house. After they have all PAS'd out, i put some away, leaving a few smaller ones mixed in with my kids' pictures. Last winter after my OSD24 went on a verbally abusive post-Xmas email/phone call rampage that had shaken all of us considerably ( it became obvious she had inherited BM's personality disorders) I stated to DH that i saw no need to daily look at people who try to hurt me, and put all remaining pics in a box, which is now in my attic. DH has not suggested we display any other ones, and there are many in his photo collection.
We display pics of our extended families, friends, ourselves, my kids.
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