Are you no longer a step?
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I was thinking of this earlier and so happen to run across a forum where one of our members has split from DH and will no longer be a step, so it prompted me to ask...
Has the divorce from DH/DW been a blessing or worst decision ever?
Also were there bio kids involved?
I thought this would be a good discussion and maybe provide answers for some who haven't asked or didn't know what/how to ask.
I myself have not. 1st marriage, 2 skids, only one living with us still, the other is grown and 1 bio kid. But don't think for a second that I haven't thought about getting out of dodge and I am sure it will run thru my mind much, much, much more!!!
I am no longer a step as of
I am no longer a step as of very recently.
My DH decided that he wanted to split due to me wanting to have structure on him being a Disney dad - mind you I condoned it to a extent most wouldn't and I even spoiled SS but I created some structure. From what I've heard all structure was thrown out the window, including letting SS skip a day of school before DH went back to work which he knew I would have not tried to stop but would have looked down on.
Luckily I got out with no bios as we were waiting for him to decide if he was going to take a career closer to home or not. I am happy that we were waiting!
I do not know if it was a blessing or the worst decision. Clearly, I did not agree and I fought for our marriage and he did not want to work on the few issues we had that were ALL step-related. I am starting to recover and still even with all the anger he has caused me feel he is making a mistake and worry about their future, but I know that now I can move on as I start a new job Monday, and I can get out of this tiny town and start living the life DH and I had planned without the constant set backs.
No bios always makes for a
No bios always makes for a totally new ballgame!
Sounds like your at a good time to restart and make a fresh life for yourself
Sorry for your loss and sorry
Sorry for your loss and sorry Satan was, well Satan! But you made it thru to the other side, I just wish you would have had more time to enjoy not having a skid in the home with DH.
See that is what I am looking forward to, the thing that keeps me from bolting. The light at the end of the tunnel. I can see it, when the skid is with BM, or gone from the home. The air is lighter, and it just feels so much more normal! I look forward to it just being me and DH, granted it makes my stomach bunch up to think of my baby boy growing up and going off to school, but then there is just me and DH, enjoying each other. Almost like back before we were married. I guess I am taking a gamble that the reward is well worth the risk of my sanity?
See, I split at one time too
See, I split at one time too and then came back. The split was not due to skid or BM issue tho, it was all DM. We worked it out obviously. DS was about 1 yr when that happened.
See DH and I dated for almost 4 yrs prior to getting married. Honestly the main reason we got married when we did is due to me becoming pregnant with DS10 and not working so I needed insurance. We were in a good place and happy how things were. I had lost my job the year prior and then stayed home to take care of his ailing grandfather while he worked. Skids were over just on the weekends, maybe occasionally during the week. Good kids, not much trouble or sass. BM was tolerable. That continued on into our marriage too. Gradually the skids would come and go as often as they pleased, there was no set schedule, we saw them often and BM was still tolerable and seemed okay in her 3rd marriage.
BM divorced - its all gone downhill from there.
I've thought about leaving several times. Its just I give so much of me to someone who isn't part of me. That isnt natural. SD15 isn't bad, just different. DS10 is exactly like me, and I like that. But, in the end, DH is my person. We're soul mates, or I believe we are. I can't leave that, i figure the (s)kids will grow up and move on, we will always have each other. Child rearing is only a small part of our life together.