It's been almost two months since SD17 moved in with us, husband and my two bio boys 10,13. Thankfully SD20 hasn't tried to live with us. I am trying to disengage from SD17 because her father takes bare responsibility for her and leaves everything up to me. I am sick of her sitting on her bum and not doing one thing in the house. I can't tell SD to pick up her dishes or put clothes away with out her blowing up and if I ask her father to tell her he gives in to her every whim and has actually done "chores" for her. She has always got something smart mouth to say. I have a feeling that she lies to us about the times she works and where she is going. I have told my husband this and he dismisses me like his precious daughter would never. For pity sake the girl lies about being pregnant bc she thought she would be able to move in with bf and his mom! My husband is turning a blind eye to her and it makes me sick! I don't know how much longer I can keep not saying anything to this girl. My husband takes her side no matter what. Isn't the wife supposed to come first? In some ways I almost feel as if SDs both try to assume the "wife"role (not sexually!) in decision making and trying to over ride authority. I have told my husband many times I want his daughter to go back to her BM. My husband refuses the idea bc SD doesn't want to face her BM after false accusations to CPS. I am forced to live hiding in my room and trying to ignore my SD and at the same time be a mom to my own children. I feel like my husband is trying to make me out to be mean and cold. I only want the best for my SD I know hiding her from her BM is not the answer. SD changed her phone number and refuses to speak to her mom. To be clear CPS knows no beating went on at the BM house or anywhere.