My SD is almost 3 and I have been in her life since she was 16 months old, since before she was talking and hardly walking. She has lived in the same house with me for over a year. My fiance shares custody with her mother half the time, so we have her a lot. I knew from the moment I met my fiance we were going to get married and so I immediately began the acting role of step mom. I was so excited to intertwine our families. I have two kids, 6 and 9, which are with us 70% of the week, so it came naturally to me to love her, hug her, kiss, her, read to her, get her dressed up really cute, paint her nails, make her good dinners, give her responsibilty (putting her dirty clothes in the hamper, putting her plate in the sink, picking up her toys), sing songs, I just want to do things for her that she needs and that will make her happy just like my own children as if she were my own. She has always had some what of a resistance to me and it's gotten worse. To the point where I don't even want to be around her anymore, I have been trying and trying but I can't handle her anymore. I can't believe I am saying this but I CAN'T STAND her. When I make dinner she tells her dad thank you for dinner not me, she tells me I'm ugly my clothes are ugly my hair is ugly, she doesn't like anything I like, she constantly gives me dirty looks, runs away from me when I try to read books with her at night(I read to both of my children every night and she won't let me read to her), If I try to do anything for her she screams and asks for her dad. If I give her a bath she screams and cries tears, if I get her dressed she screams, while she is doing her hair and her dad is sitting right there she cries I want you daddy. If she gets hurt and I pick her up to comfort her and ask whats wrong she kicks me and screams and says I want daddy. She has told me she doesn't like me. She doesn't like me to touch anything of her dads and if I do she screams at me "that's my daddies!". If I give him a hug or kiss she has to give him a hug or kiss. Everything in the house is his, our car, our room, our bed, the house. Everything is about him and NOTHING is about me. She never asks me for help, asks me for anything, wants to show me anything, do anything with me, nothing. She could care less if I were even around. When her dad takes a shower, she kicks and screams at the door for him the entire time, kicks and screams at me if I try to talk to her and pick her up. Her mother is remarried and has anthoer child, her step dad has been around as long as I have. I discovered a few weeks ago she calls him daddy. I have asked her to call me Mama and my name so she can understand what I am to her at our house, she hardly ever does, she refuses to. Her dad never said he had a problem with it but he never would call me that to her until recently when I got really upset with after talking to him about her behaivor with me fo the 3rd time. That kind of built on the hurt I already had. How come he is special enough to use that but I'm not? How come I get treated like nothing? I feel hate from her. I kiss everyone in my houseand say I love you everytime I leave somewhere or go to bed. Ever since I can remember she has either smacked me when I do this, scratched me, moved her head away and screamed no. I can't handle it anymore. I am so hurt that the last couple days I have been almost ignoring her and stopped all my motherly behaivor towards her. I am tired of feeling so much denial from her. If I do her hair she cries, when her mom does her hair she brags about it. I bought her a really cute tutu outfit and yesterday she was playing in it and called it a pom pom, I simply told her, no hunny that's a tutu not a pom pom and low and behold I got another dirty look and she says "no it's a pom pom, my daddy said", and she walks away. It's always MY DADDY She has even told her dad I've hit her before, which is not true at all, althought I really want to. If he isn't in the room she's looking for him and asking where is MY daddy? I don't know where this is coming from, I don't know what to do, I have talked to my fiance so many times. He doesn't know what to do, he tells her not to treat me that way and tells me I'm at our house I am mama and that I will do all her mommy things and that I'm special. He even told her "isn't mama (my name) pretty?" Trying to encourage her to be nice to me and she looks at me with that dirty look and says no. I wonder if some of this could be coming from her mothers house. I've heard that she is extremly spoiled over there by all of that family. All my fiances family live out of state. I almost wonder if someone feeds her these things. This has gotten to the point with me where I am devasted and so extremly hurt it puts me in tears. I have even told her she can't treat me the way she does because it makes me sad. I can't belive this kind of hate is coming from a 2 year old! In all honesty I have never seen her be kind to anyone. Everything is about her. Which is semi normal for a two year but I almost want to say she has a cruel heart, which again doesn't seem natural to me. I have seen so many posts on here from SM's dealing with similar things. I can give her a lot of love and I want to but this is going on almost two years of these increasing mean behaivors towards me and It can not continue. I love my fiance and I will marry him and spend the rest of my life with him. One day she will leave, but until then, I don't know what to do. My kids have a good relationship with my fiance. Suggestions? Help?