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I survived the first night without Ex SO. Feeling sad but proud.

oncechoosetosmile's picture

I can't thank enough those who help me through this rough time.SO moved yesterday and I felt my heart breaking.I feel so bitter, but at the same time I experienced a bit of a relief.I don't know how me skinny little person got the strenght but I changed my whole house around - all of SO's clutter is gone and the house looks already soooo much nicer.My kids stayed for the night and brought friends here, which was great since this we was normally their dads we.Today I picked up a japanese homestay.
I was about to start an anti depressant but changed my life in the last moment and saw instead the naturopath who gave me some quite powerful herbs .I will try that first.
I will try to take one hour at the time I suppose and pray for angels and good things to happen so I can move on better and faster from SO.

emotionaly beat up's picture

Clearing the clutter is good. Trying without medication is good, but if it gets too hard accept your doctors help. Don't let this slip into depression.

One hour or 10 minutes at a time, every minute that passes is one minute more you got through it.

Are you going to Japan for a home stay or are you bringing in a Japanese person to stay with you.?

Whatever, sound good. But slow down chicken, be kind to yourself. You are going through a trauma, so go slow.

You will survive this. You will learn and grow from this and you should feel so proud of yourself for the immense courage you have just shown. It will get better.

Hope the job happens soon, good luck.

oncechoosetosmile's picture

EBU, I have a japanese homestay here- which will help paying some of my bills.I will survive this, I have to.xx

emotionaly beat up's picture

Lovely, you have someone in the house, a little bit of company now and again hopefully. A bit of extra cash, hopefully a new job which sounds perfect for you, and great weather. It's freezing here Smile You will survive. Thinking of you n

luchay's picture

Sorry - off topic - but EBU - you and I are in the same town - I thought yesterday was pretty warm LMAO - now Friday - THAT was freezing....

Kes's picture

Trust me, I have suffered from depression long term - you so do NOT sound depressed to me - on the contrary, you sound full of vitality, you definitely have not lost your get-up-and-go.

It's a good idea to have someone staying in the house, and as you say, help pay the bills. Good luck to you and your kids, wishing you peace and happiness.

luchay's picture

I love the Student/homestay idea - an old friend of mine back in Tassie has international uni students homestay all the time - she can accommodate up to 4 at a time, helps her be a SAHM, keeps her busy.

Well done for thinking outside the box, YOU are doing great, you will survive this and you will come out of it stronger.

But allow yourself help if you need it, allow yourself to grieve, and don't be afraid to just cry a little - it really does help.

Sending you big hugs.

CocaColaGirl's picture

Good for you, hon. Sounds like you're doing your best to keep active and busy for the foreseeable future.

I'm still struggling with the loss of my SO in my life... it's a battle. Stay strong, but if you need to commiserate, I'm here.

oncechoosetosmile's picture

I can't sleep- I am awake since 3 am - trying to look at numbers, money issues etc.if everything works out the best way I will be ok, but if it doesn't I will face a lot of problems. Sigh. I must start believing that everything I need will be provided by universe( and by me trying like crazy!!!)

emotionaly beat up's picture

Ahh, so now you've added being tired to your problems. Smile Gosh, I'm so sorry for you. I wish, and I'm sure every woman here does to, that time passes quickly for you, because it is only time that will heal your broken heart. I wish you sunny happy days. Long nights of deep, relaxing and healing contented sleep. You are never far from my thoughts. Be strong chicken, this too shall pass.