Vent-the daughter that can't be trusted with a phone or internet needs an ipod???
Background-SD has RAD, she is no longer living with us due to not following a single rule and mainly for verbally and physically abusing our other kids.
SD used to sneak on the computer and talk about sex with adult men, she texted photos of herself to boys when she wasn't supposed to text boys at all and created FB pages she wasn't allowed to have and blocked her dad and I.
She called at 11 last night (we go to bed at 9) and told her dad she "needs" a new iPod (I guess she stole the first one? Wouldn't be the first time she stole an iPod) for her birthday in over a month because she "needs" it to call her boyfriend (she wasn't allowed to have while living with us). She is having sex with this boy at age 13 and has apparently snuck him into her current home when her grandparents were gone.
My issue is NOT with SD, it is with my DH! How is he so ignorant that he doesn't see anything wrong with this? Not to mention finances are tight (I was severed and am waiting for my new job to start and he is also between jobs). He doesn't see anything wrong with the iPod let alone SD calling late and demanding what we are to buy her for a future bday and she needs it NOW!
And this is the main reason SD can't live with us...DH does not hold her accountable and he further damages her. This is NOT appropriate means of parenting a RAD!
My guy wanted to get his
My guy wanted to get his computer addicted 12 year old a smart phone. I blew a gasket.
My dh wanted to buy his
My dh wanted to buy his sexually perpetrating, pot smoking, 100% defiant kid an ipod last Christmas as well. Why? Guilt. He does not live with us because of these behaviors. He called a few weeks before xmas and was nice during the 10 minute convo so dh was ready to go out and get him a nice gift despite the fact that the kid had even refused to speak to dh for months on end prior to the phone call.
My dh feels guilty that ss doesn't live here. Feels as if others view him negatively because of this. My inlaws, whom he lives with, encourage this guilt and play him like a fiddle.