What you are feeling is TOTALLY normal. It is not because of pregnancy or hormones that you are feeling this way either. This is the way ALOT of us feel. Noboby really wants to put up with somebody elses kids or problems. Let's be honest!

I don't ever have to do jack shit for my FDH's kid and I still don't like him. Why? Because I HATE that because he EXISTS my FDH gets raped in CS and that is 920.00 a month that SHOULD BE coming into OUR household is going to some gold digging bitch for some brat and I know she spends it on herself etc too! There are sooo many reasons why what you are feeling is normal and you are NOT a bad person for feeling this way either.

We are human...we just want a perfectly happy life with our men and OUR children...NOT SOMEONE ELSES!!! Period!

Hope this helps...*hugs*

I'd say a bit of everything you said. Pregnancy hormones CAN play a part in any situation so why wouldn't it play a part in how you're feeling now too? You don't have kids yet, so experience is almost nil so far and you're feeling your way as you go. Nothing wrong with that. I think some of it too is having her around is a constant reminder of BM. After all, she IS half her mother and seeing her un-savvy behaviours only compounds that in your mind making it undesirable. You went from childless, to being a SM without much lead up work (at least right now you're getting 9 mths to prepare for bubs! Yay! Congrats!)

Like someone already mentioned, give yourself a break. 5 year olds are hard work and she's so young and impressionable, I'm so glad its YOU and DH that get to mould her from now on and only the EOWE from her BM that's lucky!! If we could have got my SD when she was younger I would have in a heartbeat. Now that she's older and pretty set in her attitude, I don't want her F/T as sad and bad as that sounds. She's TOO much like her mom now and I can't tolerate her attitude for more than a weekend.

My suggestion would be just give it some time. You may develop a bond with your SD and really have a wonderful impact and influence ont he person she will become. And go easier on yourself, allow night time alone time with DH to help decompress and relax before bed. (((hugs)))

I think what you are feeling is pretty normal. She is not your child and you do not have a bond with her. All kids are annoying, but with our own biological children we have that bond that makes us want to be with them.

DH needs to set his mind to parenting that child and putting some boundaries in place. First of all, no child should be dictating any rules to the adults. She needs to be CORRECTED when that happens, not just ignored.

DH needs to teach her how to spend time by herself and entertain herself. There is nothing worse than a child who grows up needing constant attention and entertainment.

These behaviors need to be stopped now before she gets older. Make DH handle it and get some well deserved spa time to yourself in the meantime.

Once the horomones are gone and SD starts behaving better, you may find the situation MUCH more tolerable. Good luck!

It is normal to have some emotions like yours especially when you are pregnant. I am 32 weeks pregnant and have a hard time dealing with the situations brought to me by bm. I even cried on mothers day because not a week before she told me that my ss was not part of our family and that we only acknowledge when it is convenient for us. (because dealing with her is a convenience) and he called me because he wanted to say how much he loves and misses us and happy mothers day and that he wants to come be with us. Im not normally an emotional person but because of the pregnancy hormones they mess with you alot. Just take a deep breath and your sd is beyond old enough to have rules and even help out chores in the house to get her more disciplined and structured. So a good thing would be to have dh and you sit down and talk about rules and help out chores like putting away the laundry, dishes, help take out the trash, ect. and it also sounds like she has seperation anxiety a little with the breathing down your neck and not wanting to play on her own. My bio son has it because he home with me all day and night. I go in his room and play with him and get him distracted with playing on his own without me and i sneakout of the room. he notices after a while and he come and finds me then goes back and plays. Also they said my son has it because i am pregnant and about to have the baby. So good luck.