Housekeys-who should have them?
SD is with DH a week/with her BM a week all year long. Sometimes SD forgets things at our house, so she needs to pick them up.
Well, today I had applied the "tan in a can" and you can't get dressed until that stuff dries.
Dog went nuts, car door slammed, shit! someone's trying to get in my house! I make a run for a bedroom and peep out the window and see the top of BM's Honda.
What the f ? I realize the kid lives here 50% of the time, but when she is with BM and she needs to come to my house, a phone call..you know.
They left(BM and SD). I called BM and told her I couldn't come to the door (that thank GOD was locked)because I was buck ass naked. I told her it really isn't unusual for me to be naked when I'm home alone and that she should CALL FIRST(YOU DUMB BITCH) before SD comes barging into my house!
I'm really usually not naked but the silence on the other end of the line was hilarious.
Anyway, I'm REALLY dreading the day that SD gets a house key. Then she can barge in whenever.
Ha! Good one! I bet they
Ha! Good one! I bet they ALWAYS call first in future.
You're right. I was feeling
You're right. I was feeling just a little like a bitch, but you're right..."during the other 50% of the time, SD has no rights to the house".
I haven't even mentioned the incident to my H. But I am glad I called the BM because both of them are entitled bitches and really think they can do what they want when they want.
On a normal day, I would have been at work which pisses me off even more because that's like BM and SD sneaking into my house without calling ANYONE.
I park in a garage, so they never really know if I'm home or not. I like that.
I honestly don't want my SD to ever have a key. Ever. I think she should learn to not forget her shit here or wait until H is home from work.
I don't have an alarm. But
I don't have an alarm. But see another problem with SD is that she pilfers. The day she leaves for a week, I UNLOCK any property that I don't want contaminated, borrowed, seen, or touched by her.
I am going to get a nannycam asap because H doesn't believe precious goes in our room. All of the storm doors have a latch, so I guess when SD does get a key I can lock all of those and leave through the garage. She will learn to call first or come here after her dad gets home.
Those chain thingies won't
Those chain thingies won't keep out a burglar but hopefully will keep out people who have a key. Or that flip thing that most hotels have.
Yeah, the silence on the
Yeah, the silence on the other end of the line as BM tried to wrap her head around what I just said-it was priceless. But I got my point across.
If SD gets a key, it will be because H insists upon it. We used to stash a key outside, but I took it away when SD used it to come in while I was Zumba-ing.( I was fully dressed this time, but still, call first damn it!)
If it were just her and her dad living here, that would be one thing, but I live here 100% of the time and my BD lives here 70% of the time, so a little common courtesy, you know?
I have another funny story
I have another funny story about skids intruding...I have an adult SD who has a little boy. Her husband is a pipe fitter and works away from home for weeks and sometimes months at a time.
NO SHIT.. adult SD would come to my house 2-5 times a week in the afternoon without calling. Always after I got home from work, but before my husband got home. She would hang around so I could make supper for her and her son. I asked my husband to say something to her about it, and he did, but she didn't 'get it'. So, as soon as she would pull up, I'd drop my pants and here she would come up the steps and I'm in a T-shirt and panties. She seemed a little uncomfortable. Once her son asked why I don't have pants on and I said, "because I live here and I don't have to wear pants in my house". The best was when it was her, her son and her husband. Ha! When my husband came home he goes, "babe, are you gonna put some pants on?" I said, well, "I'm having some panty time today."
My skids had house keys. It
My skids had house keys. It is a case by case situation, but they never just let themselves in while they were in the care of BM. Never...They called first. Always...
It's weird to me how things have changed so much in the world. Granted my skids are now adults, and our situations were years ago. But, BM should have had her call, and just blows my mind that she would not think to do that...
I liked the naked story.....Hilarious !!!
SSstb18 still has a house key
SSstb18 still has a house key even though he does not live with us anymore.
One morning I was getting ready for work running around the house in my undies and I heard somone shut the front door. I hid not knowing who it was. Well, it was SS he had came by to pick up something before school. I was not too happy that he just walked in without knocking or anything knowing his dad was at work.
So I had the discussion with DH "if you don't want your son to see me naked and if SS doesn't want to see me naked he needs to call first and if no one answers ring the door bell before walking into the house".
DH knows I run around the house naked all the time so that is a very real possibility. Needless to say DH had a talk with SS.
*Edited to add* I don't think anyone that is not a permanent member of the house should have the key. Even then kids only when absolutely necessary. If I didn't trust BM I wouldn't want BM to have access to the key vs. stepkids.
That is hilarious that you
That is hilarious that you told BM you walk around naked when you are home alone! Hahahah! Hopefully that will teach them to call before showing up unannounced! That is just plain rude anyway. People have lives that don't revolve around skids.
My SD is only 5 so I don't have to deal with this yet, but I know as of right now, I would NOT feel comfortable at all with her having a key to my house, mainly because of BM. So we will have to figure something out when that time comes.
Still laughing at what you told BM!
I don't think any skid should
I don't think any skid should have a key to my house.
Jellybean do you think your SD would have let BM in if you were not home?
Check out this blog. http://www.steptalk.org/node/67907 posted by Just His Wife in May of last year. Interesting to read the whole years worth of what happened after that day.
So far, for 5 years, I have
So far, for 5 years, I have never caught BM in my house. And I better NEVER catch her in my house. Hello .38, goodbye BM.
Oh, and I ended up telling H about the whole thing and how if SD needs to pick something up, then BM needs to CALL FIRST. Know what he said? "She(SD)lives here, too". I held my comments for now. I'll fight that fight when it comes up next.
Funny, my BD "lives" at her dad's house 6 days a month and I have never, ever, nor would I even think of it, sent BD into that house without calling first. and obviously, I'm no Miss Manners if I'm telling BM how naked I always am. Common courtesy. Geesh, it's not that complicated. It's a matter of respect-which SD AND BM need to learn.
Oh no I would be annoyed too.
Oh no I would be annoyed too. You need your privacy and time to yourself whether you are naked or not! My SD who we had 50/50 did have a key but I also have a deadlock installed in the front door, so that would be locked when it wasn't our time to have her.
Note to self: Install
Note to self: Install deadbolts!
No one has keys at our place.
No one has keys at our place. The doors and windows are all always locked.
But we have a garage door opener in our cars and we park in the garage.
There is a code on the garage to punch in, but we explained to the kids they never should need keys,... This way there is no kids having keys, losing keys, wondering if BM is copying the keys
No they don't,... They don't
No they don't,... They don't have a good relationship with her, and don't share anything that is not necessary...
We did talk about not sharing the code too, with anyone, to protect "their" stuff
FSD 8 volunteered to BM without prompting, "we can't tell you the code" when we were all in public, BM said back very snotty, "I don't want to know it" and gave FDH and I a mean look...
So the kids do understand not to share it... Even if they don't understand the proper etiquette of how to convert that in public...
My step daughter is 3 and I
My step daughter is 3 and I am still trying to teach her how to knock on our door when she wakes up in the morning... She just comes right in! I figured if we locked our bedroom door, she would HAVE to knock; but DH thinks that's too mean.